They say when if anything intereferes with your daily functioning, its a problem. And yes it did and so it was, for me anyway..
Yes, you can liken it to looking at pictures of sports cars or sail boats you never own.. You fold up the magazine and the fantasy ends.
For me it wasnt that way. Id get up early on the weekends and check message boards of creeps who scour the internet looking for womens photos.. I went to lengths to hide them..
My wifes behavior caused me to relapse into all if the issues i had in my youth and being so hard on myself is one of them. Mix that with low self esteem and I had a hole I couldnt climb out of.
Ptsd didnt help either. Right next to drugs, alcohol and cigarettes, pornography addiction is one of the lesser known issues with it.
Long story short, no i didnt act on it and the damage would have been less if it was found out about, but i hid it, i did it at work, i lied about it.. I snuck around to do it.. I guess that was kind if my point.
I guess i dont know if i had one other than i read about fantasy APs and thought it was ridiculous until i reallize i had them myself..
These posts I was talking about gman. I don't know about porn with my H, yet the rest is dead on his sitch.
Just so glad you shared. And you too Anjae. I feel so much better it's not just me in this type of sitch.
I, well my H was accused of being so much sicker than just MLC because there was no actual person, only pictures which hurt me deeply. Because I came to this person for support, yet got judgement instead
I see no difference between an actual A and one with pictures only. From what I read in RCR articles about wallowers, that describes them perfectly.
gman, how did your W respond to it? Did it cause problems? How long did it last for you?