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Has your MLC'er filed for divorce?

No, still living at home.
3 (7.5%)
No, but has threatened (living at home).
4 (10%)
No, but we are separated.
14 (35%)
Yes, paperwork is in process.
11 (27.5%)
We are divorced.
8 (20%)

Total Members Voted: 40

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MLC Monster Re: Divorce Poll
#90: July 26, 2011, 12:08:49 PM
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In many ways, the divorce is a piece of paper because emotionally, physically, and really spiritually they have already left us and even if they sleep in our homes, they are truly gone.

Well summed up for me, too, Ready.  I am now 28 months post BD.  Still lives at home but separately.  Never said the actual D word but certainly hinted at it around the time of BD.  No steps taken legally as far as I am aware.  Still very much in MLC. 
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Re: Divorce Poll
#91: July 26, 2011, 12:22:34 PM
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In many ways, the divorce is a piece of paper because emotionally, physically, and really spiritually they have already left us and even if they sleep in our homes, they are truly gone.

Ready,

You are so right. I lived like that for so long. I am glad that I no longer have to live with the daily reminder of what I no longer have. H leaving was one of the things I dreaded the most, but his leaving has been necessary for me to find myself again.

One thing is for sure, if he returns, I will no longer accept the way things were when he left. I will only accept a relationship with two equal partners with equal say in the course of their lives.

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M 22 years
T  23 years
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Re: Divorce Poll
#92: July 26, 2011, 01:52:38 PM
Left on 30.9.09 = our 14th wedding anniversary
Divorce final (UK) = 11th April 2011
Married OW = 17th June 2011

Both of our children have their own mobile phones, I am very very dark and he still contacts me twice/three times per week on average with kid/non kid stuff

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Re: Divorce Poll
#93: July 26, 2011, 03:59:40 PM
Punkin' filed at the beginning of this year but hasn't made any further moves.  I'm not sure why he hasn't finished it yet, but he is the one who wants to divorce, not me.  Finalizing the paperwork would be to my advantage, but I will not do it for him. 
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