[Anjae]

OW1 did not hate me, she was just jealous. OW2 I have no idea if she hates me or not.

If they hate us they are spending too much energy on us, so we are important to them. Well, of course we are, we are the spouse, they are not.

[crazyforhim]

OK so here is another question...I find myself sometimes obsessed about the OW and H breaking up. I am not concerned about the R as a whole cause I know it's bad but I am wondering if there is an average time as to their relationship lasting?? Crazy I know (that is why my name is what it is...LOL!)

I understand I shouldn't dwell on it but for some reason I have this bad habit of wondering when this is all going to end....not the MLC but the actual H and OW R!

I realize I have to give it time but they have been together for nearly 2 years!!!! I guess my hope is getting me all carried away.

Any advice??

[limitless]

Crazy,
Advice is for you to stop watching.  It will drive you crazy!
Does it really matter what the statistics are?
They could say that affairs last an average of 18 months - (just a number - not a real statistic) - your H's is beyond that - so what does that mean?  Or they last 5 years?  Again, what does that mean?

Unfortunately, like MLC, it lasts as long as it lasts.  And, I'm just guessing, but in many situations the relationship is already over for months - before an actual split - as there may be an attempt to "make it work."

If you ask some of the "seasoned" LBS here - whose H's (and W's) have been involved in dead end relationships - long after there is any joy or fun - I would think they (the LBS) would say - stop watching or reading too much into their make ups and break ups.  Eventually, most will end, as they are relationships created upon lies and deceit.....

Just let them be....leave them be.   Focus on something else - like yourself - or you can and will drive yourself crazy.

Hugs,

Limitless

[Love being on higher grounds]

Crazy,

Ill second LL here! she is absolutely giving you the BEST advice anyone can...let it be, dont even think about it, if at all possible, that is how you get sucked in over and over again...do for YOU!

hugs,
L

[crazyforhim]

Thanks L and LBOHG...that was a question I already knew the answer too but probably just need some encouragement.
Don't know what I would do without this site!!
 

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