[crazyforhim]

after a while I realize that OW doesn't love H- he is a possession of hers, nothing more and as long as she can keep him away from me she is happy! Sickening...ewwww

[Anjae]

Oh big time... she worries more about what her boss and her new friends think more then anything else in the entire world.  She wants to hear she is good enough... smart enough and fantastic enough... thanks george smiley... I dont understand where this comes from at all.

ziggee, you better get used to it. they need to outshine everyone else, to be praised beyond sickness, to have all the attention on them. It comes from the crisis. It is a narcissistic thing a "I, I, I, I, I".

new friends...what type are her new friends? different from the ones the two of you would have? from another social circle? much younger? party goers?...they tend to get friends that fit their crisis self.

[ziggee]

ziggee, you better get used to it. they need to outshine everyone else, to be praised beyond sickness, to have all the attention on them. It comes from the crisis. It is a narcissistic thing a "I, I, I, I, I".

new friends...what type are her new friends? different from the ones the two of you would have? from another social circle? much younger? party goers?...they tend to get friends that fit their crisis self.

Much younger and who are ignorant... not happy? Go find your bliss and get the heck out of there...

[Anjae]

Much younger and who are ignorant... not happy? Go find your bliss and get the heck out of there...

much younger and ignorant is always useful when in MLC. if never married or never in many years long relashionships, the better.

yes, not happy, go get their bliss somewhere else. it will take a while, sometimes a long while, until they find that the way to be happy is inside them.

[LeaveThePastBehind]

"Maybe we should ask them where they get their script and use it to get our spouses back from them! But, who wants to be needy and clingy and use emotional blackmail?..."


Not me!  

[crazyforhim]

Unfortunately I knew OW before and I wouldn't call us friends but we were friendly and she sure didn't seem the type to be with my H let alone be needy and clingy- do OW's change too even though they aren't in MLC?

[kikki]

How can we be sure how people would react in a relationship?
Also, as this one for them is based on sneaking around and lies - I guess that would be enough to change the dynamics

[Anjae]

I knew OW1 before as well. In social events or dinner parties she just looked like a nice, sweet, caring girl, uncapable of any wrong did.

Agree with kikki, the nature of the relashionship will change its dynamics. So the people involved on it will change.

[crazyforhim]

True but hard to accept when you think you know someone!
It's funny how the OW's hate us- what have we done???

[kikki]

I kind of knew the OW too, but not very well.  At work functions she was cold, bland and colourless in personality. As quiet as a mouse.

Maybe that was just around me, as I hear she's very gushy and giggly around my H (or was in the early days).  The only thing I have heard about her recently is that she's very negative.   Maybe her true colours are appearing after all.

Why do they hate us?  My H said a few months ago ' OW doesn't like you either, because you stop the boys from seeing me'
I said well, you'll have to tell her the truth then - your boys don't see you because they can't abide your behaviour!'
'Yeah you're right -I guess I should then' he said.  'She doesn't understand' 

I also said 'of course she doesn't like me.  I'm your wife and she's scr*wing my husband' 
He didn't know what to say to that ........