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#30: August 19, 2012, 12:28:45 AM
I sometimes wonder what kind of woman she is. For sure she is a gold digger, and my H always hated women like that. An other thing I don't understand is that she is with a man who still is in a relationship with me. The only things he took were his clothes, and not even all his clothes. All his other belongings are here and he has no intentions of selling the house. He is even talking about the future as it comes to things which has to be done in the house. He also never introduced her to people I know. She is being hide by him and what kind of person wants to be treated like that??? I can only think that she must have a very low self esteem. And my H as well I guess.

D21 once met him when he was with OW. She told me OW looks old and terrible, like she have had a terrible life. Meanwhile she was dressed like an 18 year old girl. D21 told me not to be afraid that he would ever introduce her to people cause he would make himself completely ridiculous.

I also think it must be a fantasy affair. OW once texted him: 'oooooh (his name) you are so wonderful, this is going to be forever isn't it. Please tell me that it is.' I really think she must be nuts, the woman is almost 50 years old!
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Re: OW - what did you want to know? What do you wish you didn't?
#31: August 19, 2012, 10:23:43 AM
Sadly, my h couldn't wait to go public with OW. He took her to family events and work functions after he moved out but before he ever mentioned the word divorce to me. I think he wants to show people, "look I can get someone besides my wife." I also think OW was extremely eager to cement things. That was her way of doing it, to "force" the situation so others would accept her.
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Re: OW - what did you want to know? What do you wish you didn't?
#32: August 19, 2012, 05:20:35 PM
I suspect ALL ow would like to "cement things" with their married MLCer..... but there are many things that thwart them, thank goodness!!! Living in another state... NOT working together.... kids that openly don't accept them... family members that openly don't accept them.... family members that side with YOU and your kids....  MLCer not divorcing even though the ow pressures..... MLCer isolating the ow from HER life (which she is more than willing to do, by the way!).... LBS not divorcing, even though ow taunts believing the LBS will believe that all is wonderful between her and your husband.... and last, but not least.... a STANDING SPOUSE!

Standing Spouse is the Check and Mate to her chess moves.... all you have to do is go on with you life the best you can and check back in every now and then to see her frustrated by NOWHERE TO GO!! No matter WHAT your MLCer tells you, shows you..... do NOT believe it.... he is the "devils mouthpiece" for now an dow is carrying his balls in her purse..... so if he says there is no hope, why would you believe him??? Ask God what to believe....

BirdSoul.... it may not have been your husband WANTING to go public with ow... it could have been him "GOING ALONG WITH SOME THINGS" as my husband put it... but it COULD have been him trying his best to emotionally divorce from his old life..... either way it's shameful, but not to be believed.
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Re: OW - what did you want to know? What do you wish you didn't?
#33: August 26, 2012, 09:34:59 AM
I'm so sorry. :(  At least you know 1) she has a track record of broken Rs, and your H will be no different; 2) she has a track record of people knowing she's a hot mess that uses people.  People will not judge you, but they're probably looking at your H wondering what HE'S thinking.   :o :o  MLC makes a smart man so, so stupid.
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Re: OW - what did you want to know? What do you wish you didn't?
#34: August 26, 2012, 09:37:02 AM
Honestly makes me want to be a nun...this sort of sordidness is just to much for me...

Me too.   ;)
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