[OldPilot]

These are the books that I have read so far:
which I would reccomend to all
"Male Menopause" &"Surviving Male Menopause" by Jed Diamond.
"Men in MidLife Crisis" by Jim Conway
"Menopause" by Sally Conway
"The Wisdom of Menopause" by Christine Northrup
"Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman
"Divorce Busting",  "Divorce Remedy", "Sex Starved Marriage" "Sex Starved Wife" by Michelle Wiener Davis
"His Needs, Her Needs" & ""Fall in Love, Stay in Love" by Willard Harley
"The Journey From Abandonment To Healing"  by Susan Anderson
"What you feel you can Heal" by John Gray


Two I would NOT reccomend:
"The change : women, aging, and the menopause" by Greer, Germaine,
"Why we stay together : 20 writers on marriage and its rewards " by  Jennifer Schwamm Willis,


These are two I am reading right now that have gotton good reccomendations:
"The Pain behind the Mask : Overcoming Masculine Depression"   by   Lynch, John,           
"Silent Sons" by    Ackerman, Robert J.

I also own this book but I haven't read it yet
"Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" by John Gray

If I had to pick 3,  they would  be the Connway book, Susan Anderson, and Jed Diamond.
followed closely by 5 Love Languages.

Hope that helps someone.

[Trustandlove]

I've read a lot of those; I also read "Getting the love you want" (Harville Hendrix) -- not mlc, but a good relationship book; "Irritable Male Syndrome" by Jed Diamond;

And these aren't mlc, but really helped me with my own issues:  "Feeling Good" and "The Feeling Good Handbook" by David Burns -- cognitive behaviour therapy; very useful for depression and LBS issues. 

I'll go back and look through my titles -- I'm sure I have some that I wouldn't recommend as well. 

[ForeverHopefulOne]

I am reading:

Men in Midlife Crisis by Jim Conway
Your Husband's Midlife Crisis by Sally Conway
Self-Esteem by Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning

The Self-Esteem book is very clinical, but it gives great insight as to why we let the "inner critic" destroy us.

A tip, I get all my books on Half.com - it's a great place to buy used books for really cheap!

[Dontgiveup]

For us dudes, Jim and Sally Conway also wrote a book that I refer to often called Women in Midlife Crisis.  Neither Jim nor Sally Conway ever ran from their marriage (Sally has passed away and Jim is remarried), but as many of you know, Jim came close.

[Still]

For those of you who would like to talk to Jim in a LiveChat. Every Monday evening he chats with MLC'ers/LBS through the chatroom on his website.

It is www.midlife.com.

[Buggy31]

Did Jim have an affair as part of his midlife crisis?

[Dontgiveup]

No

Jim's writing and advice is very helpful though.

[MarkedandHealed]

Hollis, James. The Middle Passage: From Misery to Meaning in Midlife
Stein, Murray. In Midlife
Conway, Jim. Men in Midlife Crisis

I'm currently looking for the O'Connor book at a reasonable price.

And of course, I always recommend separate from midlife crisis Weiner-Davis, Michele. Divorce Remedy. I have given out dozens of these over the years with many people coming back to me and crediting it with saving their marriage. And Chapman, Harry. The Five Love Languages. However, that last book will not be useful in MLC until they come through.

[covenantkeeper]

I have read most of the books already recommended, but there is also another one that I think merits being added to the list. It's called Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage by Mark Gungor. Now, obviously it's geared to couples who are working together on their marriage, but I learned a lot that I could use to work on myself during this time and hopefully use later on when hubby comes home.  Mark Gungor goes around the world doing marriage seminars, but he is also a pastor of a church and has a radio program.

This book taught me a lot about the differences in how men and women think. It stepped on my toes quite a few times when I realized I did a lot wrong my entire married life. Not out of being mean....just plain ignorance! I felt the same way after reading The Five Love Languages. It seemed so clear after reading it, but I was sure ignorant of how to treat my h before that!

I laughed the whole time I was reading Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage!  As a matter of fact, I lent this book and The Five Love Languages to my h. He read them both, but then asked if he could keep this one for a little while longer. When he returned it to me, he said he read it twice all the way through, but also read different sections numerous times. I like to keep the pages of my books neat, but when he returned the book it looked like it had been beat up! I was never so happy to see a banged up book in my life! My h told me he absolutely loved the book and wished Mark would come to Ohio so he could go see him. I couldn't believe it!

Now, that was 4 months ago and h has moved on in his crisis and is now spewing hate everywhere, so who knows if he would say the same thing now. However, at that time I did ask him why he would read, let alone read it twice and love a book about marriage if he didn't want to be married. And his answer at that time really gave me hope. He looked at me with a puzzled look and said "I don't know. Maybe I'm just so confused right now I don't know what I want. And you're right, maybe I don't want a divorce. I just don't know." 

Now if I could just find a book, or better yet a book on tape that my husband would like. Something with subliminal messages to him like "You really love your wife. You miss her and want to live with her forever." Yeah, that would be great!  LOL!

[Writingmom]

I have read the Conway books, Ed Wheat's book and books on affairs, all helpful.  The one I am reading now is not MLC related but very helpful.

God Never Blinks by Regina Brett.  "50 Lessons for Life's Little Detours".