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How do your MLCers explain themselves? Check all that apply

I love you but I’m not in love with you.
I'm unhappy and I have to figure out why
I need space
I'm numb, I don't feel anything
It is my time to be selfish.
I need to know if I'm going to miss you
I don't even know why I married you.
We have nothing in common.
You are so controlling.
You were so cold to me.
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OP: April 16, 2011, 04:29:21 PM
I was wondering how common these scripts were. Do they all say all of these? I know there's a lot of other common things that they say, that I've picked up from "The Script our MLCer reads from"
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=203.0;all
 
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=1707.0;all
(RCR: It was split into two threads and may soon be across more)
 
I love you but I’m not in love with you.
I love you but love just isn't enough
I'm unhappy and I have to figure out why
I need space
I'm numb, I don't feel anything
It is my time to be selfish.
I need to know if I'm going to miss you
I hate doing this to you.
You’ve been amazing
OP is just my friend.
This is not about OP.
You were so cold to me.
You are so controlling.
We can still be friends
I’ve been unhappy for a very long time
I have not loved you for the entire time we've been married.
I don't even know why I married you.
We have nothing in common.
The kids will get over it
I don't know what the problem is
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Re: MLC SCRIPTS: poll
#1: April 16, 2011, 07:14:16 PM
Please add: And I don´t feel guilt about it!
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Re: MLC SCRIPTS: poll
#2: April 16, 2011, 07:20:35 PM
How about....
I'm not having an affair.  That's the last thing that I need right now.  (At the time, he was having an affair - SURPRISE).

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Re: MLC SCRIPTS: poll
#3: April 16, 2011, 07:29:31 PM
Mine also told me He was very, very unhappy and couldn't see himself being retired with me.  Oh, and he said he's tired of the roller coaster I put him on.
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Re: MLC SCRIPTS: poll
#4: April 16, 2011, 08:03:19 PM
I've gotten A LOT of those...
plus:
I have to be true to myself
When I was walking down the Isle, I was thinking "how stupid am I"....

That was after he told me that he wasn't happy for 6 months, 9 months, 3 years, 5 years, 10 years.... please....
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Re: MLC SCRIPTS: poll
#5: April 16, 2011, 09:33:42 PM
Really?!

How about when he said I have been unhappy for ten years when the children and I know that he has been acting strangely on and off for about 18 mos. Also recognized that there was a younger employee that died suddenly of a massive heart attack. BD was 7/10.
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Re: MLC SCRIPTS: poll
#6: April 17, 2011, 01:35:31 AM
We had moved house just as he was starting to act weirdly at times. So I got

'This was a house to far!'

When I asked how he thought the the children would react he said

'they know I am unhappy and deserve some happiness'

Oh and 'you took the bushiness to the brink of bankruptcy' that is interesting as he has!

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Re: MLC SCRIPTS: poll
#7: April 17, 2011, 03:08:43 AM
My now ex husband (as I had it confirmed yesterday my divorce was final on the 11th April) has also cited the following:-

* you are too soft with the children
* you've never liked my father
* your passion for Hornsea Pottery is stifling me
* you like the kitchen sink too clean
* you have rejected my lovemaking (yep sure did - insulted me all day and then expected me to be a sex Goddess at night)
* you have a box of cards ready for every occasion - there is no spontaneity with you
* the kids will accept OW for the amazing person she is
* OW is a million times the person you will ever be (yeah right!!)
* I want you to be happy and I just don't make you happy
* it's my job P it's so stressful - there isn't and hasn't ever been anyone else



and the BIGGIE

What about my chance of happiness P???

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Re: MLC SCRIPTS: poll
#8: April 17, 2011, 07:22:16 AM
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I love you but love just isn't enough
I'm unhappy and I have to figure out why
I need space
I hate doing this to you.
You’ve been amazing
This is not about OP.
We can still be friends
I’ve been unhappy for a very long time
We have nothing in common.
The kids will get over it
I don't know what the problem is

I got these ones... plus some of the ones the other people have mentioned....this one by Justasking
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When I asked how he thought the the children would react he said

'they know I am unhappy and deserve some happiness'

This one as well from forthetrees
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And I don´t feel guilt about it!
IT'S ALL ABOUT THEM... my sweeties... totally about them!   :(

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Re: MLC SCRIPTS: poll
#9: April 17, 2011, 07:38:06 AM
This one killed me: " I've been doing for everyone my whole life, taking care of everything... now it's time for me."

I thought, gee, so have I!
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