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#10: June 05, 2019, 10:58:15 AM
We have yellow and dark pink roses growing in the terrace. Also pelargonium, hybrid fuchsias, azaleas, several cacti and a few more plants. No vegetables.

Personally, I am growing more and more inner peace.
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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
#11: June 05, 2019, 11:08:57 AM

Personally, I am growing more and more inner peace.

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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
#12: June 05, 2019, 11:53:09 AM
Does creating fake trees indoors count? I have now completed my second imitation wisteria vine tree in the TV room. It feels very tropical now.

I have three rose bushes outside (Chrysler Imperial-red, Bewitched-pink, and Voodoo-orange) and an apple tree that went crazy this year.

I hope to get to my yard and garden as soon as I get my mother's house cleaned out. In the meantime, my patience and tolerance for dealing with situations that move at a snails pace is growing.
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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
#13: June 05, 2019, 12:56:20 PM
What's growing in my LBS world?  A new found love of animals. (Especially dogs)

In Feb 2018 I had my D (who was a senior at HS and at home) pick out a dog for her to have.  My H was going through OW withdrawal at the time and was so far off the family radar that he didn't even register that we had a dog for quite awhile.  When we first brought our little pug home, I thought to myself "what have I done?"  She was very odd looking and I had not had a dog around for 25 years. 

This dog has brought so much joy, love and laughter to our entire family.  She helped my D and I form a new bond, She has been the one and only confidant throughout this entire process and was the first thing my H started to connect with when he started to come back around.  When my D is stressed at school she facetimes our dog.  When I am having a bad day I leash her up and take her out.  I've made new dog park friends, I've gotten to know my neighbors again and I have something that is always there for me. 

My D told me the other day that when she gets done with school she is going to have to get her own dog, because this one is mine.  I agree.  I can't imagine life without her now.  :)
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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
#14: June 08, 2019, 03:58:53 PM
My purple clematis I planted after I moved in is doing wonderfully growing up the trellis and should soon be on the fence soon.  Looks a lot like this:



S14's raspberry bush is growing wonderfully as well.  Has some blooms, but no raspberries as of yet.

I was given a strawberry plant as a Summer going away present from a student and plan on planting it soon, as well as purchasing and planting a rose bush.

Other than that, I did not have time in my schedule to buy and plant any flowers in planters or hanging baskets, but last weekend I happened upon a store that had all theirs clearanced out for 50% or more off so I purchased a pot for near my front door, one for my backyard patio table, and 4 hanging baskets that are in my backyard.  One hanging on my back fence, one hanging from the eaves just outside my french door so I can see it through the window and two on my iron butterfly stands on either side of my backyard patio.  They are beautiful and so far I have managed to water them when I get home from work and keep them alive.  Just need to fill the hummingbird feeder and put it back out.

My little patch of grass had been sorely neglected last Summer after I hurt my calf and doggie did his business there, but since the winter snow and rains, it's growing and I've been fighting to get it under control.  I did a bunch of yard work last weekend after neglecting it since doggie passed away in February and had to put on heavy gloves to pull several waist high or higher thistle weeds that had taken over, along with about 30 tree starts that smell awful.  The cat hates how I smell when I come in from pulling those tree starts, which grow 2-3 every day and are super annoying.  S14 shows no interest in wanting to help me with yard work and even less interest since he and D17 started helping out my M and SD this past week with their yard.  I have a little old-fashioned push mower to mow the grass, and while it's a pain in the butt, it's sometimes therapeutic too.  And the yard is hidden from view by a 6 foot wooden fence, stained a beautiful redwood color so if I don't get to it right away, only the next door neighbors suffer when they stare at it from their upstairs windows.   ;D

Thankfully the front grass and the hedges are all taken care of by the HOA so the front compound where everyone drives in and parks looks beautiful all the time.  It's really nice in the Spring as we have many blossoming trees.  Now everything is green and leafy and shady.
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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
#15: September 18, 2019, 05:14:06 AM
I'm starting to get ripe chilis... and they are NOT "chilly" by any means!

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We have had another record hot summer so the chilis are Smokin' I had no idea how hot they would be and gave one to my neighbors daughter for her BF (who loved spicy food - I came to find out he can't eat spicy stuff anymore because of stomach problems)  and got a text message
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YEEEEEEEE HAW! That was hot...
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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
#16: September 18, 2019, 06:16:14 AM
Faith, your flowers are beautiful!  I love the royal purple color. 
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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
#17: September 18, 2019, 08:39:30 AM
Good morning all,

  I grew vegetables in an above ground garden this year. Okra, tomatoes, zucchini, carrots,yellow squash and brussel spouts. I was very successful with the tomatoes and okra. I got two zucchinis, but carrots were very little and other stuff never produced any vegetables. I also planted flowers and mulched in the front yard and placed bird feeders outside. Flowers did well but it has been so hot still in the 90's and so much is dying. I really enjoyed this. But I definitely will miss not having a yard after I move.

My H stopping taking care of anything around the house and when I decided to do it was such a positive for me. I have enjoyed mowing the yard and making it beautiful with mulch and flowers and the garden. In a few years, when I can get on my feet financially, I will buy my own home with a yard. (of course still praying for a miracle) But will look forward to having a full garden again. But thinking about what I can grow on a small balcony for now...

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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
#18: September 18, 2019, 10:11:43 AM
hello everyone

Here at my house, my son started gardening after bd. He produced huge zucchinis and tomatoes and carrots. This year he no longer lives with me, so I took over the little garden. I have a tomato plant (very delicious) and  lots of flowers, petunia, calendula etc. I have tried  herbs too, but they always dry up. At a friend's house there was a grape picking event and I asked for the grape seeds. They are drying now. I want to grind them, because I heard eating grape seed is good for blood vessels ..

Doing garden work is so soothing for me. Better than anxiety medicine.
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Re: What's growing in MY part of the world
#19: September 18, 2019, 06:12:49 PM
What a lovely thread. Love hearing about what other people are growing!

Just going into spring here so plenty of blossum around. I have 3 ornamental pears that are just glorious right now.

I've moved into the new house now (little rental we built at the front of our old property a year or so ago that has had tenants in it until start of Aug) and it has two lovely sunny decks, at the front and the side (which is actually the 'front door'). I've moved all my succulent pots there as well as some garden ornaments (cute little rustic ladder for one), 2 cane chairs and a gorgeous little rustic table that H's GFather made many many years ago. D18 and I love spending time there having a cuppa or glass of wine.

Last weekend I bought some potting mix and some flowering annuals (primulas and violas) and I potted them up in the eclectic mix of pots I had hanging around with nothing in them. So now the deck is even prettier and I'm really looking forward to having friends/family over for 'dinner and drinks on the deck' now that the warm weather is arriving.

Over the big side deck there's a wooden pergola. It's currently just a wooden structure with no 'covering'. I've formulated a plan to recycle two big square pots I have (currently have a succulent in one and pelargonium in the other, both a bit neglected) and grow a creeper in each of them that will grow up and over the pergola to give us shade and a bit of privacy. At this stage think I'm going to put some white hardengergias in. Need to do a bit of work first though (empty pots out, reclaim some of the soil, seal inside of the pots, put up chicken wire supports, re-fill pots, plant plants, relax with glass of wine and watch them grow!!). Something to keep me busy and my mind off all things MLC in the next few weekends!

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