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Discussion 3 great things about you?
OP: September 23, 2019, 07:29:28 AM
Reminded recently that we all can lose sight of the fact that we are nothing more and nothing less overall than we were before this hard time in our lives. That we each are worthy of love and respect and appreciation. That we always were and still are. Even if our MLC spouse thinks we smell of poo  :)

So a prod to us all, three great things about you as a person that have nothing to do with coping with MLC or your role as a husband/wife/parent?

I'll start
1. I have a really good brain
2. I am kind
3. I have great hair
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Re: 3 great things about you?
#1: September 23, 2019, 07:56:32 AM
I am a very patient driver.
I make friends easily.
I'm a good judge of character.

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Re: 3 great things about you?
#2: September 23, 2019, 08:19:33 AM
I am generous.
I am resilient.
I have killer fashion sense  ;)
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Re: 3 great things about you?
#3: September 23, 2019, 08:32:24 AM
Cool topic.....  :D

I am:
1. Patient & Kind
2. Hot and getting hotter (LOL!!!!)
3. Smart and creative

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Re: 3 great things about you?
#4: September 23, 2019, 08:54:24 AM


1. Super Loyal
2. Funny 
3. Kind
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Re: 3 great things about you?
#5: September 23, 2019, 09:16:13 AM
i LOVE this thread :)

1. I'm funny
2. I'm creative and love my own company
3. I have a great figure

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BD: 7th September 2019 (although lots of signs for previous 4 months)
EA with old school friend who appears to also be going through MLC for at least 4 months and I think OW since at least August
I have a wealth of experience of MLC (which I'd rather not have) - my previous long-term R (17 years, including 6 months of marriage) ended in D in July 2015 because I wanted to end it as it was an abusive R
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Re: 3 great things about you?
#6: September 23, 2019, 09:46:46 AM
1. I’m an incorrigible optimist.  Eeyore’s nemesis.
2. I do not hold onto grudges.
3. I manage to count my blessings every day.  Even when it’s difficult...
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Re: 3 great things about you?
#7: September 23, 2019, 10:07:38 AM
Some good sides of me....

1. I can't sing well, but I still love to sing (especially in hot shower)

2. I can't dance well, but I still love to do it

3. I can't draw well, but I still love to do it

So I guess all this makes me..creative, fun (at least I consider my attempts fun), and relentless (chasing my dreams).

Likely could sign also Treasur's great hair note  (at least most barbers I visit talk how awesome  hair I've got), but I hate it because it's so thick and grows way too quickly, lol

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BD ("I don't love you"): Feb 2019, 
BD2 ("I don't want to fix this marriage."), Mar 2020
D filed May 2020, D finalized Dec 2020
I have moved on, and am in new relationship.

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Re: 3 great things about you?
#8: September 23, 2019, 10:31:09 AM
This topic is making me smile so much  8)

1. loyal (to a fault)
2. passionate
3. a great capacity for kindness

A typical Scorpio... I bring the best of both worlds to everything.  ;)   
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Re: 3 great things about you?
#9: September 23, 2019, 01:15:50 PM
Ohh good topic!!

- Apparently very attractive (or so I'm told!)
- Very honest (sometimes brutally so)
- Outgoing and social.
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Together 15 years, M 8 @separation
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BD1 - 26th Aug 2017 (Not happy, life has no purpose)
BD2 - 22nd March 2018 (Marriage is over, we want different things, confessed EA with someone 12,000 kms away although "she means nothing")
H moved in with parents 11th May 2018 (I asked him to leave as couldn't handle the EA rubbed all over my face)
H moved abroad 29th Dec 2018, not sure if OW will join him or if they are still in contact.
Confirmation H and OW are together, presume PA  - 3rd June 2019
H gets engaged with OW - Oct 2019
H "finally" asks for divorce - Aug 2020
H marries OW - March 2021.. We are not divorced!
Divorced - Dec 7th 2022

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