There is some movement with H. Can't say it is all good. Since August, H has had a major pullback. Very distant. Hardly seeing or talking to him. Compared to the previous 6 mos where there was movement closer until May when it got stagnant....there is a definite pull back now.
Anyhow...about the mid of October he stopped by about 4 times. Was here for a short spurt and with reason. Primarily to work on the bathroom or meet with the contractor. Didn't stay any longer than he had to stay. Now we saw each other 4 times in the last 4 days and he mentioned possibly stopping by again today. Who knows.....it is so odd.
Last week, H stopped by and out of the blue asked me to ride to a family wedding together on Saturday. We did. During the reception, he was very intent on drinking. Free mixed drinks and beer and he ran up that tab. Would go to the bar and come back with 3 to 4 drinks just for himself. Within an hour he was feeling VERY good. He even left his phone on the table and walked away...got talking...when he came back for his phone...it was about 2 hours later. He sat beside me at the reception but hardly spoke to me. I was however enjoying the show. I was getting a peak into his behaviors. He was all about attention from other people that night.
On Sunday, he told me he had plans but still agreed to go to a family lunch. Told him where to meet me at and he told me I could ride with him. So I did. Why not.
We agreed to leave at 9:30. He showed up at 9 and told me change of plans. I got myself ready in 5 mins and we were out the door with no notice from him. I said nothing.
The ride there was uneventful. He played with the grandkids when we got to the park. He was in good spirits. At one point, we got separated by people walking between us....he looked around to see where I was and slowed down and waited for me but still kept walking in front of me.
Once we got to the restaurant, he ordered and then he pulled out his phone and stayed on his phone playing the entire meal. So did the grandkids. He wasn't involved in any of the convos going on at all.
On the way home, he volunteered to help me pick up a bike I needed for rehab and made sure I noticed he was keeping his mower at my parent's house. SIL had seen it was stored at OW1 house for a period of time. I never said a word or let on that I knew. Just said...well you know mom and dad don't mind. He also made some really weird comments:
1. We should fix the little things that need to be done on the house. You can sell it with the market being up right now. Get more than double what we paid for it. I said Yes...I am sure however to buy something else means I would also be paying more than the house is really worth. This market is gonna crash again and I prefer to not be upside down. If anything, it would be best to refinance and consolidate. He said....do it soon if you are gonna do it. Bear in mind that I broached this topic a few months back and he looked at me and said "Sam, you know I don't know a lot about that stuff." Now all of a sudden he is a financial real estate advisor.
I quickly figured out that he recently spoke with friend J who is at the end stages of his own MLC. He idolized J at the beginning of MLC. Even compared us to him. Friend J is loaded because his father died and left him a lot. J just stole property from an older woman who wanted to sell her daughter's house. Her D had recently died. J heard about it before she got to the realtor. The older woman said the house is only worth about $75000 and that is all she wanted. J went and grabbed cash from his safe and paid her. He took advantage of her. The home is worth about double that and J is gonna put about $15k into it and sell it for about $225k with the current market conditions. So H thinks we should sell our place to have the funds to buy something else like what J did. Would find if I had a place to live... I don't...this is my home and I will fight to keep it. I'll buy him out before I sell it.
2. We had planned a lunch and planned on buying but I didn't tell H. When we were leaving, I took the bill and paid. When we got to the car to leave, H said "I didn't have any cash so I couldn't help pay the bill." I laughed so hard inside. This was not spur of the moment. We had talked about it for 3 days. He asked about the restaurant and the prices and the food options. Too funny.
3. He is on an anti-SIL kick again. Talking bad about SIL. Last week he was talking good about him.
There are some things he says and does that just feels like early on hard replay again....yet it is different. I wonder if he is back into hard replay again yet not or if it just feels different because I am in a much different place now.
Where things would have hurt before or I would have taken them to heart...I don't. I see him doing flip-flops more often now suddenly. One time talking about fixing the driveway and a week later wanting to sell the place. Talking about long terms dreams with the house just a month or so ago and now selling it. Hard to tell what tomorrow will bring....I just know I can handle it.
Onward and Upward is better than Rinse and Repeat!
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