[What is the percentage of spouses who have divorced decide to reconcile on this forum]

What is the percentage of spouses who have divorced decide to reconcile on this forum

How many have accepted their spouse back

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How many have decided to move and have remarried someone else

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Voting closed: June 13, 2014, 06:59:19 AM

[Thundarr]

So what's the general consensus own how long it takes women now?

[OldPilot]

So what's the general consensus own how long it takes women now?

It has never  changed.

Until it is over.

[unbroken]

Look at RCR's timeline.  The MLC books say that replay is 1-2 years.  The crisis overall takes much longer 3-5 years, perhaps 2-7 years.  Those early returns are often false starts and don't last.
I know you are looking for some answer.  It takes as long as it takes.  You have to set it aside and find your journey in this.  What are you supposed to be learning during this time.  You should not just be waiting.
Your chances are neither better nor worse because you are where you are.

[brokenhearted]

Just a quick question, if replay lasts about two years, and it is two years since the original BD from my partner, and he is now marrying the ow in December, is it possible he has come out of replay at this point? It is not two years since I found out about the 0W, that has been about one year from when I found out about her, until his engagement to ow and  their wedding date being set.

[Chrysalis]

One to two years for replay seems short to me based on other people's experiences here.  My ex has been in replay for over twenty-six months and is showing no signs of leaving OW.  I don't know what things are like with them though - he's very rarely mentioned her to me.  I did happen to see a couple of emails fairly recently though and it all seemed as lovey-dovey as ever sadly.

[OldPilot]

Just a quick question, if replay lasts about two years, and it is two years since the original BD from my partner, and he is now marrying the ow in December, is it possible he has come out of replay at this point? It is not two years since I found out about the 0W, that has been about one year from when I found out about her, until his engagement to ow and  their wedding date being set.

NO - general rule as long as there is an OW it is still REPLAY.
Minimum REPLAY time is 2 years, it can last much longer.

[Dontgiveup]

http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_separation_replay_stage-obsession.html

[Trustandlove]

The thing is, it's really all only visible in the rear view mirror.  What might look like awakening and coming out of the tunnel, transitioning from replay to the next stage or something like that, can turn out to be just a blip, or a cycle.    It isn't necessarily linear; RCR once also described it as a slinky; they can go all the way round a coil, only to find themselves a half a millimeter further along.  Imagine how long to the end of the slinky! 

I like RCR's description somewhere that they can bounce along the bottom several times; after all, the bottom isn't a nice place to be and they may well do everything to avoid it.  Including continuing or even stepping up replay activities. 

That's why you can only really see what happened afterwards.   

And all quite likely is not as it seems. 

[Searching4Answers]

So I have been thinking of how many of us have had to pursue legal actions whether we have wanted to or not. Mostly the legal actions that we have to take involve protecting ourselves financially especially if there are children involved.

Do you think that the legal action has any effect on the MLCer? Also, are there very many stories of reconnecting/reconciling once there has been action taken? Do any of know of anyone getting back together after they have divorced or does that pretty much end it?

[Albatross]

There You have Return Stories. Maybe You can find what You seek.