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What is the percentage of spouses who have divorced decide to reconcile on this forum

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#20: October 22, 2013, 10:35:45 AM
I don't believe it affects it.  They "feel" divorced in cases where there is no legal action, and don't cycle back until those feelings fade.  Unless the LBS moves on and is not open to reconciliation after divorce, I think there would still be a desire for the MLCer to cycle back once the crisis is over and reclaim their life.  I am going through the legal portion, have been for over a year, and it has made no difference.  He still continues to be weird and make weird contact when he feels like it, and when we've seen each other he is still clearly in crisis but very much not detached from me.  I actually think it's better that we've gone through this part, as it creates a bit of a clean slate, and any marriage from here forward would absolutely be "new". 

Don'tGiveUp's divorced friend just remarried his wife after 5 years of MLC, Charlyne and Bob from Rejoice Ministries were divorced before reuniting and beginning their marriage ministry, and I know there are several other great stories on the forum link Albatross posted. 
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Re: Reconnection/Reconciliation and Legal Actions
#21: October 22, 2013, 10:40:16 AM
You could look at this way: if the marriage didn't mean much to him, a divorce won't either  :)
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Re: Reconnection/Reconciliation and Legal Actions
#22: October 22, 2013, 10:42:57 AM
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You could look at this way: if the marriage didn't mean much to him, a divorce won't either 

Exactly Booboo.  I was told that when I asked whether my H getting remarried meant I had no chance of reconnecting down the line.
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Re: Reconnection/Reconciliation and Legal Actions
#23: October 22, 2013, 03:18:00 PM
I agree.  And, most of them seem to believe that the divorce is all but fact at BD!!!  And, some need the divorce--a clean break before they ever start to look inside themselves.
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Re: Reconnection/Reconciliation and Legal Actions
#24: October 22, 2013, 07:51:08 PM
Serenity said this on someone's thread. . .

Being married didn't stop him from leaving, so therefore if he divorces you, it won't stop him returning either.
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Divorce and Reconciliation
#25: March 21, 2014, 11:48:09 AM
My BD was sept 2013.  H has OW.....he filed for Divorce Feb 2014.  H told me he was going to file on Valentines Day.  He originally said it was so that we could all "move on and heal" ::)  Then last week said he filed once he realized he was in love with OW.

How do you cope with your H divorcing you and then standing?  Is there any hope for reconciliation after Divorce?

What do you think?
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Re: Divorce and Reconciliation
#26: March 21, 2014, 12:44:53 PM
Divorce is a piece of paper and a financial agreement.  You were in love before you were married, and as we found out, you can 'not be in love' while you are married.  So logically, you can be in love, after D....  so certainly I believe you can R.

Oh, how very rational, filing for D on Valentine's Day helps all to move on and heal...?  Perhaps the courts are very busy that day? 

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Re: Divorce and Reconciliation
#27: March 21, 2014, 12:58:27 PM
 you can have a R but it takes too, to R and sometimes the other has done so much damage in the process to leave,, that you cannot go back!!!!   you have to have a really thick skin and remember who they were and not who they have become in the process, and be like a duck and let it run off like water
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Re: Divorce and Reconciliation
#28: March 23, 2014, 12:11:15 AM
I got my letter from hs solicitor on valentines day too! H is divorcing me on my unreasonable behaviour despite his affair and long term R with a young employee. We are also just six weeks away from it being no fault no blame, two year separation. He has some need to shame me and humiliate me even more. So painful.
I have been asking the same questions as you.
I think to my self "right time to move, get over this and get on with my life." But I have such a deep sense of loss and the D is making everything feel final.
Any divorcees on the forum still standing, any advice for getting through this process would be good!
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Re: Divorce and Reconciliation
#29: March 23, 2014, 11:56:08 AM
 A divorce is the most bloodless crime one person  can do to another, and get away with it without any quilt.. when  the other person does not want it.

All you can do is pray and ask God to be with you as you go thru the valley of death...
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