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#30: November 18, 2022, 04:16:43 AM
Thanks for sharing your update, F5. I’d been wondering how you were doing. Enjoy the week with your kids!
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#31: November 18, 2022, 04:37:29 AM
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Even if they were there isn’t much I can do about it
I think that is the magic thought process, isn’t it. When we realize in general most is out of our control. It really is freeing in so many ways to just focus on now and let life evolve.  Sounds like things are going pretty good for you with work and the kids and a new routine. I think everything else will fall in place when it’s suppose to. Great update F5. Thanks for sharing
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Married July 1991
Jan 2018 BD1 moved out I filed for Div/ H stopped it
Oct 2018 moved back
Oct 2020 BD2
Feb 2021 Div-29 1/2 years
July 2021 Married OW
Feb 2022  XH fired
June 2022 XH bring OW to meet family due to xMIL illness
May 2023 went NC after telling XH we could not be friends
Aug 2023 XH moves w/o OWife
May 2024 xMIL visits XH/OW in their new home
Aug 2024 cut relations w/XH fam.
Dec 2024 D33 expecting baby ( XH not told)
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#32: November 18, 2022, 05:20:29 AM
Great to hear from you, F5. Glad that things are working out!
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#33: November 18, 2022, 06:44:18 AM
F5, wow!  I’m so happy to hear how great things are going.  I hope things continue to evolve in wonderful ways.  I admire your getting to what sounds like a better emotional place as well. 
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#34: November 18, 2022, 09:06:33 AM
You dug out of the financial hole, bravo!
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#35: November 18, 2022, 01:18:48 PM
So happy for you Father5!

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#36: November 18, 2022, 02:22:30 PM
I'm so happy you're doing so well F5!!!!

You made the right decision, I know it was hard when you were faced with it..... BRAVO!!!

Onward and upward!!! 8)

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#37: May 25, 2023, 09:36:01 AM
Hi Guys,

It’s time for an update. I have been doing well in my new venture. I have built some self worth back and am feeling pretty good about the way things are going.

  I have worked through most of my brain fog and am feeling more like my normal self. I still have moments of anger and thoughts but they are very few and far between.

  Last month I had to deal face to face with my ex after years of not talking.  I did very well, I saved her a seat at the show for one of the kids. We sat together and talked for the first time since this started. It has been almost five years.

  Then two weeks later we had to to sit together again for another event. It went the same. It was weird but at some point I realized she was more afraid of me than I was of her.

  It has been super healing for me to address the elephant in the room so to speak. To face her and talk to her like I wasn’t afraid anymore.

 Don’t get me wrong I still miss her and love her very much but I have grown and have moved forward with my life in a way where I am not waiting for anyone.

 Strange enough she did mention that she was having a midlife crisis. I didn’t read too much into it but it was mentioned.


  I will try and be more present on the site. I think it would be good for me to help people and pay it back. You guys are truly a gift from god.
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BD1 March 2018 - I wish I could give you more of what you need
BD2 Aug 2018 - I want a divorce sent by text ILWYBNILWY

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#38: May 25, 2023, 10:15:12 AM
Happy to read your update, F5. You had to make some hard choices along the way and it wasn’t an easy road (huge understatement) so I’m very glad to read that you are doing well.
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#39: May 25, 2023, 10:20:59 AM
F5, can't say it any better than Nas did... Great to hear from you!
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