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My Story And With That, She's Gone
#50: March 09, 2026, 07:43:43 AM
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My self worth is completely unwound from her thoughts or actions. My life is unimpacted by her unilateral decisions. I am not anxious, or longing, or spiteful for things she might do, or stopped doing, or did.

This is the textbook definition of what was referred to here as "Detaching." Removing one's self from the lead car of the Mid-lifer's Rollercoaster....
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Me - 62, xW - 55
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation & 21 at D-Day
S - 18, D - 14
1 Dog
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019
Moved on in life
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A "friend" will not "stand by you" no matter what you do. That is NOT a friend. That is an enabler. That is an accomplice.
A REAL friend will sit you down and tell you to your face to stop being a firetrucking idiot before you ruin your life and the lives of those around you.
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And With That, She's Gone
#51: March 11, 2026, 06:49:03 PM
Agreed. Detach from instability of the MLCee  and focus on healing the LBS. Our healing is the only thing we can control. Respond to the chaos with focusing on ourselves.

Don't tie ourselves to a ship listing at sea. We need time to right our own ship and stabilize ourselves.
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