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She wants to visit in the new year and to remove more of her possessions and to take with her 2 of the family dogs
She has been texting me offering me tickets for a Tom Jones concert.
She’s told daughter she’s going away for 2 months in the New Year but won’t say where.

This? I look at all of this as trying to get some kind of reaction from you.  Positive, negative, anything. I would dismiss all of it. Ignore whatever she sends.

And if it comes down to it?    It's a hard NO on the dogs, she can get her own dogs. If it makes her mad? Too bad.
Start thinking and saying no. No, no, no, no.
 You do not HAVE to give her the dogs she might want them but you do not HAVE to give them to her. The answer is no on the dogs.

Frankly I wouldn't give her that much time to bring the car back.

And that's a YES to going through with the restraining order and or non molestation order.. If she's still going to the cops filling out paperwork there's something not quite right about this. That's a smart move to tell your lawyer to go ahead with that.

If she wants to come get her personal items  Fine no problem.  I would make sure there are cops there with you too and it might be less traumatic if your D was not there. Have her be with  a relative of yours?  Her brother?

These things can be arranged either through the police or lawyer. And agreed upon future day time date etc. for her to pick up her personal items. So it can be supervised by the cops and keeps the emotions more in check.

Stay no contact, keep anything she sends. Breathe .....keep detaching.

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You could have her generate a list of the possessions she wants and then box them up and put them in the garage so she only has garage access. Or rent a storage unit for a month and have them moved there. In the US you usually can get one month free so you move it there, put a lock on it, give her lawyer the combination or key and make sure they know that only one month has been paid for. You take photos of everything boxed up and stored. The danger of her coming back into the house is if she makes a scene to provoke you and then calls the cops on you. You need to avoid any situation in which you can be provoked or accused of any kind of abuse. A lot of MLCers will only take some of their stuff and then you are left not knowing how to deal with the rest- ethically and legally. In your case I would go for a clean sweep of belongings.

Hope you and D have had a mellow Xmas day with some snuggle time and favorite treats.
FTT

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I agree with FTT

This needs to be a one time " get everything that's yours" type thing.

The cops need to be there. Even if both parties call and have the cops arrange the time.

Don't get into a power struggle with her. Just protect yourself. She'll say she didn't something and you stole it ( when she may have gotten it) photos won't help, if you put her things in the garage.

Explain the situation to the cops or your lawyer.

This will probably have to be an authority escorted removal of possessions (with the authorities there for both parties.)

I'm sorry this is happening like this.  I'm hoping you and D had some peace for Christmas.