[Greenacre]

OW now following a load of engagement ring type accounts on social media. Perhaps shes turning the pressure screw........

She is doing this for public consumption. She wants an audience and you have taken the bait. I know you have said this snooping is educational for you (words to that effect), but honestly, you are on the hook and it is pointless and beneath you.

I know you're right. Its hard not to give into the temptation to look and try to piece together what is going on. I also know that whatever narrative of this I come up with in my brain may or may not be accurate whatsoever. Maybe they are head over heels and about to ride off into the sunset and do everything, maybe she's living up to her 'psycho' reputation and is indeed a massive bunny boiler? I guess no one can know that only them.  I just find her behaviour strange with all the blocking and unblocking as well as the performative posts - especially when I have never met, interacted with, or spoken to this 'woman' either in real life or online.

Time for a detox from their crazy train I think. Its not serving me anything and I guess if they are going to blow up it will happen whether I am watching or not.

[FaithWalker]

Maybe it was because you were off work for 3 weeks, he didn't have you to stomp by for 3 whole weeks. 

I used to follow Social Media posts of MLCer and women he may or may not have been involved in and would then block them so that I could later unblock them and peek again.  Realized it was just pain shopping and was able to give up that particular past-time and was much better for it.

[UrsaMajor]

In terms of carrying on like a Queen, I can 100% attest that that is happening. Post Grad Masters is going swimmingly and will be finished in the Summer, huge promotion and payrise incoming, making great strides at work in what is a fairly rare/groundbreaking role here, and of course, I got ultra fit, slim, huge glow up and generally 'glowing' all over to the point that all our mutual friends and colleagues are commenting on it all - smug, smug smiles here.

Fair enough, I think I fuelled a lot of those changes with 'spite' in the early days, however, I've maintained all the changes and actually feel great for them.

So, let me count these up here....

1) You are NOT sitting at home in your rocking chair in a huge pile of snotty Kleenexes crocheting lace doilies and pining away for your wayward Mid-Lifer?
HOW DARE YOU GO AND GET A LIFE! 20 Lashes with a wet noodle for you!

2) You went to a gig with a "rather fit, tall male companion" that he also attended with his playdate and her gum-chewing 20's crew and he saw you? (See #1 above and add about 9 gallons of Habanero-laced jealousy sauce that he chugged with his beer to it).
Not only have your gotten a life but you are being found "ATTRACTIVE" by someone else AND were in said company... in public.... .... (that "thud" you heard was not only his jaw hitting the floor but also the rope hitting dock as you dropped it and sailed off into the sunset while he is still trying to fight his way out of a fishing net... or a paper bag...)
Up that to 40 lashes with a Wet Noodle.....

3) You are in the process of achieving your dream of further education and a new career goal and him? Oh yeah, he's still playing in the sandbox with the other children.... and when he is reminded that you are doing just fine without his constant .... guidance? attention? support?  whatever it was that he felt he was providing, he starts stomping around, ducking through doorways and generally throwing his toys out of the pram....

Do I have that right?

As far as OW and her ring obsession on FakeBook....... (Another UM-ism is inbound)

You: "Doctor, it REALLY hurts when I stab myself in the nose with this Barbeque fork..... "
Doc: "Well then how about if you try STOP STABBING YOURSELF IN THE NOSE WITH THE BARBEQUE FORK?!?"

[Greenacre]

Do I have that right?

Yup! The post grad study thing started a few months before he left. It’s a 3 year Masters Degree. It’s nearly finished, I have the role at the end of it guaranteed and a rather nice hefty pay rise coming.

I lost about 13kgs of weight just down to pure stress and not eating at BD but 18 months of have maintained it but got lean and fit through the gym. Another odd thing is the hormonal acne breakouts I used to get when we were together have all but disappeared - I don’t know what the heck that is all about?

I know people say don’t do the “pick me” dance but honestly ticking off these things that were (mostly) fuelled by spite on my behalf have helped immensely - maybe that’s why I am so terrifying to him (as a 45 year old high flying surgeon) that he feels the need to jump through doorways or whip out his phone to pretend to take calls whenever he sees me…..

The other day was the first time I’ve seen him since the whole gig situation hence why I found it really really odd he would then choose to greet me with a “good morning” after behaving like a complete firetruckwit for the past 18 months.