[LearningIamOk]

HB, I am glad you understood it was humor that I was using. Quite frankly, it never crossed my mind that you wouldn't.  I can and do have a dark, dry sense of humor. I agree with LG that it's either laugh or cry and I would rather laugh.

The humor in many of the posts is what keeps me going and staying with this site. On my darkest days someone always lifts me up. I do feel it was God driven that I found all of you as I can't for the life of me remember exactly how I did. I just googled MLC and got a hit for this and some other sites. I don't remember even starting to look at the forum or what made me post but it has been my life saver.

[summer progress]

Although God sees the couple as "one flesh" there are and should be two separate minds at work, here...and a partnership should result at the end, IF both of you allow this process to do it work on you, and you do the necessary work within yourselves to come through whole, healed, and changed.

HB,

I think this is a wonderful way to look at things. I will take it as inspiration because it has truly inspired me this morning. Thank you!

I am ready to work on myself. I am ready to do the work to become independent of my H. I know I will survive this. I hope that when H leaves he is willing to work hard too, but that is HIS choice. I know I cannot make him do anything and that his journey is his own. Letting go is hard, but I know I must be willing to risk everything in persuit of my own happiness and his. I must be the captian of my own ship and have hope that the currents of the rivers will bring our ships together again.

I love this thread! SP

[justasking]

SP

I hope that when H leaves he is willing to work hard too

The hard work within the process of MLC is already being done by your H. Part of his running behaviours is part of the process to change and healing. So his journey started before you even knew that there were issues he needed t address.

So he is off the starting point first, which is right initially. But you will catch him up and pass him as you detatch completely and learn your lessons quicker. It is at this point your H look towards you as the Lighthouse with your strength and the changes you have done for yourself.

xx