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#50: February 16, 2013, 12:23:25 PM
Can anyone explain the difference between Boomerang and Clinging Boomerang?

Also I'm curious about off and on... Tying to figure out what type mine is at this point :)
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T 19 years (Not legally married..one of the few on this forum)
BD June 2009
Left and came back too many times to count until I threw him out December 2011. Has not tried to come back since.
Dec 2011- March 2013: Living with OW. Hangs out at the family home everyday, goes home to OW at night.
2016--Nothing much has changed. H still with OW but not happy.  I'm still at house/our home but moving out of state soon..leaving house empty and leaving H to figure out his own life.
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Re: Member Groups by MLCer Type
#51: February 16, 2013, 12:48:08 PM
Quote from: CrazyStupidLove on February 16, 2013, 12:23:25 PM
Can anyone explain the difference between Boomerang and Clinging Boomerang?

Also I'm curious about off and on... Tying to figure out what type mine is at this point :)
Did you read this?

http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_contact-types.html
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Re: Member Groups by MLCer Type
#52: February 16, 2013, 06:14:31 PM
Thanks OP...I did not see that link before...

It looks like there is a very fine line between Boomerang and Clinging Boomerang. I don't know that mine is Clinging Boomerang anymore. At least not to me he isn't. He does cling to the house...but I cant figure out if it's because of the kids, or the fact that it is HIS property...or some other reason.
I guess it doesn't matter though huh? lol


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M 48
H 45
D 24 (from MY previous marriage)
Grandson 3
D 18
D 16
T 19 years (Not legally married..one of the few on this forum)
BD June 2009
Left and came back too many times to count until I threw him out December 2011. Has not tried to come back since.
Dec 2011- March 2013: Living with OW. Hangs out at the family home everyday, goes home to OW at night.
2016--Nothing much has changed. H still with OW but not happy.  I'm still at house/our home but moving out of state soon..leaving house empty and leaving H to figure out his own life.
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Re: Member Groups by MLCer Type
#53: February 16, 2013, 09:02:27 PM
Quote from: CrazyStupidLove on February 16, 2013, 06:14:31 PM
It looks like there is a very fine line between Boomerang and Clinging Boomerang. I don't know that mine is Clinging Boomerang anymore. At least not to me he isn't.

There's no firm lines between the different categories; he may wander from clinging to not clinging. If he was a Clinging Boomerang he'd still be acting like he wanted a relationship and seeking reassurance.

But you are right; in the long run, it doesn't matter. The contact types are more about helping the LBS understand and deal with the contact (or lack thereof) with their MLCer.
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Re: Member Groups by MLCer Type
#54: June 15, 2013, 03:25:44 PM
Page one has all the links
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Re: Member Groups by MLCer Type
#55: June 15, 2013, 03:41:10 PM
Someone recently suggested mine was a clinging boomerang over on my thread. He has never shown any sign in the slightest that he is interested in a reconciliation or scared of losing me. He has stated in mediation two months ago that he could never see a R with me in his future. He expressed a desire to introduce OW to our kids and we told the kids that Mummy and Daddy would be divorced soon on the 11th May. He comes back to see the kids and that is it. He is projecting a LOT and feeling like he has been 'kicked out' when I started to pack his stuff up after we told the kids. This seemed to the right thing to do to ensure that the children are clear that Daddy does not live with us anymore and that he is just 'staying' on Tuesdays and the night before his birthday. This is not clinging boomerang behaviour is it?
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