[LettingGo]

Here's are some I heard again today:

You NEVER cared about me... EVER!! You only cared about yourself!

OK, I'm a liar... so what? What else?

See, this is what I don't like about you.... you NEVER try!!

I've TRIED!! I came HOME didn't I? (just because I'm still carrying on with OW, what's your problem?)

Just because I was with OW doesn't mean I stopped caring about you... I always loved you! (while boinking her, gee that makes me feel better!)

Not being excited about the (cheap) flowers and chocolate (from the corner drugstore) I got you (while still carrying on with OW) ISN'T HELPING!!

You are SO ungrateful! You're a b*tch!

You NEVER cared about me.... waaaaaaaaaaaah poor me.

[limitless]

This thread is a continuation from
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=203.0;all
 
 
LG,
Wow!
Those are tough to hear!!!!

Some more for me -
I always took the path of least resistance.  I did what everybody else wanted - not what I wanted.
I never wanted to marry you.
It was always about what you wanted.
It was always about your career and your life.
No one appreciated me.

L

[MelanieB]

LG,

Our spouses must be clones!!!!

Yes, I have received the same, verbatim same lines all about how ungrateful I am for his very feeble efforts at relationship.    I got the "b*tch" comment, the "never wanted to marry you".  Somewhere inside, I could hear the pity party music he must have been listening to and I wanted to scream, "And you call yourself a man?"  He    whined more than a spoiled 4 yr old. 

Sadly for my xH, he is now starting the same weird behavior with our daughter.  He gave our 26 yr old daughter a pen for her birthday (and yes, that was all she got, a simple pen from Staples) but her brother got a new cell phone and Verizon plan for his birthday.  Looks like xH is now going to punish her with his passive aggressive tactics and heaven forbid she should actually say something to him about his gift giving, she will be told what an ungrateful b*tch she is also (no doubt, just like her mother)!   I feel it is likely she is being treated as the surrogate for me, since we are "No Contact" since the divorce, but it is so damaging to her self esteem.

[Shantilly Lace]

Oh Metal I heard the

You'll like OW she's just like you.

Yeah
She drinks
she smokes
Parties hard
sleeps with involved men

and the list continued
just like me. 

[Buggy31]

I've gotten
"Your crazy"
"Your insane"
throughout ..mostly when I'm not letting him have his way.
The other day he pulled a stunt and I was cool as a cucumber throughout...really calm.
He couldn't get me going so he says.
"Oh my god your INSANE...Your crazy....Something is not right up there!  "

Well I laughed my a** off right in front of him...I had to walk away LAUGHING..walked through the hallway of my house until I could regain composure.   When I was finished there he was standing in the doorway right where I had left him 

[LettingGo]

Bugs, I LOVE when I hear how crazy I am.... there's the pot calling the kettle black!

The other day I got "even though I was living with her, I ALWAYS loved you!"

But right now my favorite is "This isn't working..." or a variation "This will never work!" or perhaps "I don't know if we can make this work". I want to call in Tim Gunn from Project Runway to look my husband in the eye and say his famous line "MAKE IT WORK!"

[In this for ME]

The "make" it work statement reminds me of a passage I read in I think it was the 7 levels of Intimacy:

A man stood waiting in an airport to pick up some relitives.

A woman with a baby girl in her arms and two chldren by her side were standing there also.

A man walked up to them and they were all smiling. The man embrced the son and told him how much he had grown. Then the daughter came forward and he held her and told her how much he had missed her. The baby girl was squirming in her mothers arms and reaching out for her father.

He took her in his arms and she stopped squirming and laid her head contently on his shoulder. He then handed the baby to the daughter and said "I've saved the best for last"  He then embraced his wife and when they parted they looked at each other and said how much they loved each other.

The guy that was standing there couldn't resist asking how long he had been away from his family the man replied :

"Two whole days" ..never taking his eyes off his wife as he said it.

The man then commented "Gee I hope I have that kind of relationship someday"

The man turned to him with a very serious look on his face and stated:

"Do more than hope man- DECIDE!"

[Metal]

Too funny Shantilly,
Yeah, all true here too.

He smokes
Hes a drunk
Hes living on the street
Hes addicted to pain killers
He likes married women
He really values family ?!?!
He steals (my stuff? Yes laptop, $$, camera)

Yeah, just like me. 

[In this for ME]

Wow you guys-
The only thing I got regarding that was

"Ex OW had a childhood a lot like yours":
Let's see....

She has 6 brothers and sisters ( I'm an only child)
She was teased by them and people at school because she looks so goofy ( Not a problem for me)
She was prostituting at the age of 14 until 22 in NYC ( sorry I must have missed that part of my character developemnt)

[xyzcf]

Bumping this up for  Lisa...some of the crazy things our spouses have said to us.