[kikki]

Just stick to the behaviors; NOT what he perceives as the "label"....people often think of MLC as a red convertible, and a young blonde on their arm; nothing deeper than that...and certainly NO ONE ever thinks it will happen to THEM.

Thanks HB, I think this is really good advice. 
It kind of felt like the red convertible and young blonde (the OW is 8 years younger and bottle blonde!) are such a cliche, and the MLCer feels so unique and special in some ways, that a MLC would have to be beneath them ??

I mean - those MLC guys are such douche bags!!!  Not like our spouses    They're all class at this time

[NoRegrets]

*gasp!*

I think maybe I'm confusing RCR with HB??

 

Is HB the author of this website?

 

[kikki]

Website is RCR's,  HB has been/was dealing with MLC for many many years, and has written a great deal of amazing pieces of writing on the subject. 
They both know their stuff 

[HeartsBlessing]

*gasp!*

I think maybe I'm confusing RCR with HB??

 

Is HB the author of this website?

 

LOL, you had me re-reading my post to see what your comment was about.....

Website is RCR's,  HB has been/was dealing with MLC for many many years, and has written a great deal of amazing pieces of writing on the subject.
They both know their stuff 

Kikki, thank you for the clarification; the website IS RCR's but I've been dealing in this for a lot longer than she has.

My husband started through his MLC in November of 1999; he completely exited out just a few months ago.

So, we're done. 

I've authored many pieces of information; but you'll find these here on the forum.

I was just talking about what went on back in the day when I was dealing with this; and I said that I HAD started this kind of work back in late 2001/2002.

I remember someone making the comment about it being better to be a hemorrhoid expert than to be one on MLC...and durn me, I laughed at that time; never figuring I would end up being seen as one, LOL!!

You just got confused, that's all.

[NoRegrets]

Well, I can't tell you enough, HB, how I appreciate the life-line you and RCR and all the other experts have extended to those of us adrift in the MLC stormy seas.

Truly.

Thanks a lot! <--ok, maybe I wanted to try that marquis effect option.

I would be just so lost, still so confused, so angry, so inappropriately reactive, if it weren't for the work that you and RCR and others have done.

Sure wish you would collaborate on a book so you could get the word out there to more women.


I'll make it one of my life's missions to help other...participants...in MLC, by directing them here for help.  What a God-send.

(I almost referred to us as "victims" but we are not. We are journeymen/women. We, like our spouses, are in the process of being transformed, whether we like it or not! I always think that one of the joys of aging and of experiencing challenges in life, is in being a mentor to the next person who experiences the same thing or something similar enough. We can bring tremendous comfort to others, and that, too, is a blessing that comes from hard-earned enlightenment.)