[Thundarr]

Show-off!

Edit -Just realized that when I removed my bump that your post would look silly and that was not my intention.
So since I can't put it back in the bottle

Bump  - Oldpilot

[Thundarr]

No prob, OP.  I didn't realize there  were 2 of these already and I only linked to the first one anyway.  And I don't need any help looking silly.  LOL

Newbies, you MUST read through these two threads and please add to them.  It's amazing how alike thest stories are!

[toughtimes]

When confronted with my knowledge he had stayed with ow in hotel 2 weeks after BD my H let rip, here's a few corkers:

It's a crime to the universe to be this unhappy

I'm half the man I could be today because of you

I have done things I didn't want to do and not done I wanted to do because of you

When I met you I was F@@@@ed up and I thought I had rebuilt myself but I realise I have built myself wrong in this relationship I need to go away and rebuild myself properly!!!

I need to fix myself but I can only do that ony own (has been having affair for months!)

She's just a distraction at a time when I suppose I don't need any distractions

She's irrelevant and anyway I slept with her after I ended it with you (pah! 2 weeks after)

And, in an email to his best friend who asked how are you doing?
H replied:
Oh you know feel fantastic but a bit guilty ..... Watched Before Sunset last night to steel my nerves.
The following day ow sends H an email with a link to a film she would like to go and see at the cinema (this makes me feel sick actually, it's not a funny one!)


I'm so pleased I can laugh at some of the arrogant, crazy, narcissistic, sh*t this man has come out with! At the time I believed every word and thought, no you're right, no one deserves to be that unhappy its awful for you, I'm so sorry I made you so unhappy blah blah blah! hoping he's heading for a really stressful relationship with his young tart!

[being a lighthouse]

well in the thick of things (when h "returned" after trial separation  last year) h  did suggest that we "let the house go" and live on a commune. no, seriously. (with D14/D18 and S at uni?) craaaaaazy.

he left me again a few months later. been gone a year. Just as well my old self the "fixer" didn't follow h down that path !
( he now wants reconciliation )

[forthetrees]

Don´t know why, but this popped into my memory today: Shortly after abandoning me, h was whining repeatedly, "I am homeless, homeless!"  This is FUNNY now, but was just bizarro then. Oh my, we the LBSers come a long way forward.

[toughtimes]

Don´t know why, but this popped into my memory today: Shortly after abandoning me, h was whining repeatedly, "I am homeless, homeless!"  This is FUNNY now, but was just bizarro then. Oh my, we the LBSers come a long way forward.

FTT, my H is still saying that, even though he lives with ow and then here once a week and takes kids here or to his dads or mums every other weekend! When I tell people he says he's homeless, they all shout in unison "but HE LEFT!"

Latest shocker ..... when I asked why he stayed with me for the past ten years, bought a flat, got married, had two kids .... he replied "I don't know? Stockholm Syndrome?"

 

[limitless]

when I asked why he stayed with me for the past ten years, bought a flat, got married, had two kids .... he replied "I don't know? Stockholm Syndrome?"

This made me laugh out loud!

Boy, your H really sees himself as the victim, no doubt.

L

[Trustandlove]

yup -- victim.  My MLCer sees himself as that as well. 

I have heard and continue to hear:

"What about me??" 

[toughtimes]

TandL "what about me?" has been my Hs mantra since he was 4 years old and his brother developed a brain tumour  Very sad but big brother pulled through amazingly well and now has just a much chance of developing cancer as someone who's never had anything. My H on the other hand has maintained his serious case of "what about me?" and it seems somewhat acute at the moment!

[LettingGo]

FTT..... the "I'm homeless" meme is typical..... they FEEL homeless.. uprooted.... NOT AT HOME!!! It's still BIZARRE when you hear it!

Tough Times.... your husband essentially gave you a BLUEPRINT to what he is trying to accomplish.... completely REBUILD HIMSELF and his life in his MLC!!! Thanks for sharing, still sucks for us!!!