[Mitzpah]

We are the creators of our own destiny.  Only we can make ourselves happy... not our spouse, kids, family... JUST US!  I have also found if you expect the WORST, you are pretty much assured of getting it.

Agreed!   

I am an advocate of being optimistic, of looking on the bright side. Giving oneself positive affirmations and giving thanks for the good things we have. For over two decades, every day I would give thanks for having a wonderful wife and two healthy children. Today I do not have a wife.

We may have some influence on how we react to the events that befall us but destiny itself may be beyond our influence.

honour

Honour,

Our destinies are in God's hands.

But, I hear you about spending twenty years giving thanks... I spent thirty plus years and I still do even though I don't 'have' a husband - I cannot do otherwise, I am compelled by grace. Sometimes I feel like  What am I doing?

I know you have a vanisher, mine is moving along in that direction - I haven't actually seen or spoken to him in over six months now. I can only trust that God is doing something even if I can't see it or even understand it.

[hopingfourbetter]

  Strange thing, a couple of weeks ago I was thinking, there really are not a lot of guys on here that post much. Being a guy I like to read the guys more so than anything, all of a sudden L2 shows up! Now I am thinking wtf happened to us, this was a busy forum, now we got invaded. Very different but it is growing on me. I spent to much time on here this weekend trying to keep up. I think the mix of the guys and gals is good. Hfb

  I should say I like the mix on this thread. Guess I should say WELCOME TO THE GUYS FROM  L2.  Hope you can stick around for a while.   Hfb

[rover77]

While I don't have any hopes or aspirations for the big R..I am grateful for my marriage and all that it was ..I don't regret that at all..despite everything that has happened....how it ended was not my doing and was beyond my control.

[honour]

Our destinies are in God's hands.

Is that a law firm? I need their number 

honour

[Doc Hudson]

Yeah, it's 1-800-REALITY.

[Thundarr]

I too was thankful every day, and this is not rewriting history.  When we separated 18 years ago I realized the mistake I had made and prayed and prayed to get my family back.  I did, at least temporarily.  Now it's gone again and not of my doing this time (as far as I know).  I will continue to pray daily, with even more determination than then, but God may only answer once. 

Honour, it's unusual to see humor from you (if it is meant to be funny that is) and coupled with wisdom as always.  You may not realize it, but you know Doc from PP but he was under a different alias then I believe.  Mac49 is a vet from there as well, Doc.

I actually checked in on the DB boards again the other night and was rasa toy surprised not to be lambasted.  There were a couple more restored marriages there and sone were males, so there may be hope for us all yet.

[hopingfourbetter]

I actually checked in on the DB boards again the other night and was rasa toy surprised not to be lambasted.  There were a couple more restored marriages there and sone were males, so there may be hope for us all yet.

Hey Thundarr,
  I think the hope is over once you move on. Obviously it is not pinned on someone else's success, I here you make this statement often, at least it seems. To me I see your sitch as a success story in the future, but then that is how I see it and that is what I want for everyone here. Your wife has enough trust in you to leave you with the kids as she is finding herself, you say she is willing to do whatever she has to to help keep the house. I honestly do not see her going to far away from you.

  Do your mirror work and in time you will have your whole family back. It may not be as you remember it and I hope that it is better than it was. I am pulling for you Thundarr!

[HeartsBlessing]

Quote from: Mitzpah on Today at 11:48:07 AM

    Our destinies are in God's hands.

Is that a law firm? I need their number 

honour

Yeah, it's 1-800-REALITY.

I'd have to say, I laughed in spite of myself, as this is the TRUTH...the balances of spiritual law and justice are located within the offices of The Eyes AND the Hands of God; but these, unlike the physical symbol of Justice with her scale and blindfold, are NOT blind...He is ALL seeing and ALL knowing.   

REALITY is HIS specialty, as the truth, will set you free, indeed.

Only God knows what will happen going forward, as well as holding various outcomes in His Hands/His Destiny; and I can say from experience, He has been known to allow a LBS to know what's in the future through the use of Intuition that He gives to people during this time.

I believe it is one way He balances certain destiny type "scales" in His Favor to keep His Will in line, when He guides people in His own unique way.    Otherwise, more people would walk away forever once this crisis rears its ugly head, and shows itself.

Through trials such as these, is His Glory shown for His purposes, and His reasons.

Just a few thoughts I had when I read these quotes.   

God really does have a sense of humor, and I have found He's NOT the "fire and brimstone" perpetually angry and totally destructive God I was raised with as a child.

One last note, some people say they don't believe in Him or His existence; but I have found Him to believe in THEM, regardless.

Take care.

[Tigger]

Be nice if yall could  kjeep this going, we could burn the server down with the activity like we had at L2, Keeping up with 2 sites is more work than anything else and I already have a full time job.

[hopingfourbetter]

Hey Tigger,
  I to hope this thread keeps going also, I think LT went down for good reasons. A few of you guys had moved over already and I enjoy the man camaraderie to a point anyway. Things do happen for a reason! Hfb