[StillStanding]

"How should I behave in dealings with my wife?"

Cast Hexagram:
10 - Ten
Lü / Worrying the Tiger

Heaven shines down on the Marsh which reflects it back imperfectly:
Though the Superior Man carefully discriminates between high and low, and acts in accord with the flow of the Tao, there are still situations where a risk must be taken.

You tread upon the tail of the tiger.
Not perceiving you as a threat, the startled tiger does not bite.
Success.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:
You have reached a perilous point in your journey.
This is a real gamble -- not a maneuver, not a calculated risk.
The outcome is uncertain.
If it goes as you hope, you will gain -- but if it turns against you it will cause serious injury, at least to your plans.
The best tack is extreme caution and a healthy respect for the danger involved.

Changing Lines:
There is One Changing Line.

Hexagram Ten/Line Six
At your journey's end, look back and examine the path you chose.
If you find no causes for shame, only good works that make you shine, you may take this as an omen of the certainty of great reward.

Transformed Hexagram:
58 - Fifty-Eight
Tui / Empowering
The joyous Lake spans on and on to the horizon:
The Superior Person renews and expands his Spirit through heart-to-heart exchanges with others.

Success if you stay on course.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:
This is the sign of true companionship.
The principals in this situation exchange energy, ideas and feelings, constantly invigorating and encouraging each other to new heights of Spiritual achievement and Self-discovery.
This exchange is not for the glory of the Team, but for furthering the process of each individual's 'Te', or pure potentiality.

[justasking]

Can anyone give me an insigt into this hexagram. Not good at the lateral thinking:

Question
How does the other woman view me

Hexagram 54 Kuei mei/a loveless marriage

The thunderstorm inseminates the swelling lake, then moves on where the lake cannot follow:
The superior person views passing trials in the light of eternal truths.
Any action will prove unfortunate.
Nothing furthers.

Situation analysis
This is at best a marriage of convenience.
You have found yourself in desperate straits, a position of weakness and you are tempted to pay dearly for a remedy.
A drowning man isn’t picky about who throws him a rope.
The rescue offered to you now is undesirable.
It may pull you out of a sticky situation, but it will cause even greater predicaments down the road.
Don’t obligate yourself in this way.
You are selling your future for a quick fix.

Transformed hexagram number 24 Fu/ return
Thunder generates deep within earth’s womb:
Sage rulers recognise that the end of earth’s seasonal cycle was also the starting point of a new year and a time for dormancy.
They closed the passes at the solstice to enforce a rest from commerce and activity.
The ruler himself did not travel.
You have passed this way before but you are not regressing.
This is progress, for the cycles now repeats itself and this time you are truly aware that it is a cycle.
The return of old familiars is welcome.
You can be as sure of this cycle as you are that seven days brings the start of the new week.
Use this dormancy phase to plan which direction you will grow.

Situation analysis:
You are about to experience a rebirth - -  about to be given another chance, a new lease of life.
You have persevered, gone the distance through an entire cycle - - through the spring of hope or new passion, through a summer of growth and building, only to be sacrificed like the archetypal Harvest King at the autumn reaping.
You lie dormant like seed beneath winter snows now, healing and absorbing new energies in preparation for the new young spring coming shortly to your life.

Changing lines: Hexagram 54 line 4
The maiden waits far longer than seems wise, to make sure her marriage is right.

Any insight would be gratefully appreciated.

xx

[Trustandlove]

I asked:

What lessons do I need to learn right now?

I got:


Cast Hexagram:

18 - Eighteen
Ku / Repairing the Damage

Winds sweep through the Mountain valley:
The Superior Person sweeps away corruption and stagnation by stirring up the people and strengthening their spirit.

Supreme success.
Before crossing to the far shore, consider the move for three days.
After crossing, devote three days of hard labor to damage control.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:

You are blessed with an opportunity to resuscitate that which others have abandoned as beyond repair.
This ruin wasn't caused by evil intention, but by indifference to decay.
Just by addressing yourself to the problem, you exhibit a new awareness, a fresh perspective.
This is a time of recovery, renewal, regeneration.


I meant to ask what lessons I needed to learn for my self; I guess this could be interpreted as an opportunity to repair my marriage, which is how we all would LIKE to interpret it, but in the context of learning lessons for myself it also applies. 

I'm really trying to work on me; I know H is still deep in the tunnel. 

[Trustandlove]

I asked:

What will happen if I draw a boundary?

I got:

Cast Hexagram:

44 - Forty-Four
Kou / Compulsion

A playful Zephyr dances and delights beneath indulgent Heaven:
A Prince who shouts orders but will not walk among his people may as well try to command the four winds.

A strong, addictive temptation, much more dangerous than it seems.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:

You are ignoring a clear and present danger to your well-being.
If this threat emanated from a heavy-handed oppressor, you would see it coming.
But this danger comes to you in the form of a seduction, an amusement, a diversion, an indulgence that is eating away at the fiber of your secure little world.
You are too cocksure.
You underestimate the tribute this dalliance will demand.


Changing Lines:

There is One Changing Line.

Hexagram Forty-Four/Line Five:

Keep this melon growing in the shade.
It is a blessing from heaven.


Transformed Hexagram:

50 - Fifty
Ting / The Caldron

Fire rises hot and bright from the Wood beneath the sacrificial caldron:
The Superior Person positions himself correctly within the flow of Cosmic forces.

Supreme Accomplishment.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:

Your needs are coming into harmony with the requirements of the Cosmos.
Blending brilliantly with the Dance of Life, you are becoming an actual element of Cosmic Law.
Your goals will now be realized because you no longer cut against the Cosmic grain; you are no longer swimming against the flow of the Tao.
You are acquiring an intuitive sense of what can and cannot be, and aligning your efforts accordingly.

That seems to be pretty clear that boundaries shouldn't be draw just for the sake of doing so.....

Interesting; not an oracle, but definitely food for thought.  I'm getting better at this, at seeing that it's saying that if I don't draw boundaries just to be "firm", that I will go with the flow and let go. 

[Glimmer]

Not used this for a while.  Thought I would give this a try as it is the start of a new year.

My question was:  Will my husband leave his mistress and come back home to his family?

The answer was 24 Fu/Return

Thunder regenerates deep within earths womb
Sage rulers recognise that the end of Earth's seasonal cycle was also the starting point of a new year and a time for dormancy.
They closed the passes at the solstice to enforce a rest from commerce and activity.
The ruler himself did not travel.
You have passed this way before, but you are not regressing.
This is progress, for the cycle now repeats itself, and this time you are aware that it is truly a cycle.
The return of old familiars is welcome
You can be as sure of this cycle as you are that seven days brings the start of a new week.
Use this dormancy phase to plan which direction you will grow.

Situation Analysis

You are about to experience a rebirth - about to be given another chance, a new lease on life.
You have preserved, gone the distance through an entire cycle - through the Spring of hope or new passion, through a Summer of growth and rebuilding, only to be sacrificed like the archetypal Harvest king at the autumn reaping.
You lie dormant like seed beneath Winter snows now, healing and absorbing new energies in preparation for the new young Spring coming shortly to your life.

Very interesting.
Will have to wait and see.

 

[truth_seeker]

My question today was:  How should should I deal with H's current cycle?

Answer:  36

Ming I / Eclipsing the Light: warmth and light are swallowed by deep darkness.  The superior person shows his brilliance by keeping it veiled among the masses.
Stay true to your course, despite the visible obstacles ahead
Hex 36 / Line 1:
The pheasant's wings falter and droop from exhaustion.  The man wanders three days without eating.  He goes where he must, though scorn awaits him.

Situation Analysis:
This time calls for a saintly effort to turn the other cheek.  You have been deliberately injured.  Going blow by blow will only escalate this war. Abstain from vengeance.  Show all watching that you are above it.  Sidestep your aggressor's headlong charge, giving him the opportunity to fall on his face.

The cosmos is moving toward equilibrium.  Extremes are being tempered, excess is beginning to shift towards the empty.  You can use these moderating influences to strike a balance in the world around you.  Remember, though, that this leveling will not come about through an arrogant confiscation of excess, but through subtler persuasions.  Modesty and moderation are the keys. 

Interesting given my current situation.  Let's hope the little birdie droops.    Sorry hope this doesn't offend anyone.

[Mermaid]

Just bumping this up....

[good4me]

Can someone explain how this works ? I looked a website but found it a bit confusing.

[Mermaid]

Instructions:
1. Go to: http://www.ichingonline.net/
2. Write your question in the box (I usually write something along the lines of "what is the best attitude to take to H at the moment?")
3. Press "continue"
4.Press the "throw virtually" button SIX times
5. Press the "read" button. A new window will open. (You need to make sure your computer permits this)
6.Read the cast hexagram, then the changing lines (what may affect the situation), and then the changed hexagram (the future of the situation).

If you want to keep a record of your iChing questions, select the text and press ctrl+C
If you don't understand it very well, you can read ORIGINAL TEXT (at the bottom), which is more symbolic, or choose the appropriate hexagrams from:
http://www.psychic-revelation.com/reference/i_l/i_ching/i_ching_interpretation.html

[good4me]

What kind of questions do you ask when H is gone he's a vanisher ? Last contact was text april 14