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I also agree with the word wallow.  That is what my H is doing - wallowing in self pity.
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I love it! I know it was suggested before, but now, really thinking about it Wallow does sound right--and it has the form Wallower as well.


So thanks to Jay Deg and Mama Bear


we have the Wallowing Turtle
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Does "Withdrawal" work?

Isn't the MLC'er cycling back and forth to the OW for a fix, and also withdrawing from replay activities? Withdrawal is characterized by irritability and a "tucking in" like a turtle.
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« Last Edit: April 13, 2012, 11:05:02 PM by StartingOverInCali »
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Another idea: Angry Turtle

This would sum up my H. An angry turtle doesn't run, or attack (unless you get too close), they just withdraw inside themselves.
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I would call low-energy MLC'ers, early in Replay, "The Great Pretenders". Whatever it is going on below the surface, they've got a mask for it.
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I would call low-energy MLC'ers, early in Replay, "The Great Pretenders". Whatever it is going on below the surface, they've got a mask for it.


That's also true, JWH.
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Wallow is great!  I also like Low Energy Atrophy, as they seem to wither away (at least some of them do)
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Wallow is great!  I also like Low Energy Atrophy, as they seem to wither away (at least some of them do)
I really like that one, Atrophy.  High Energy is like a fast-paced destruction, whereas Low Energy is like a withering away of self and surroundings.

Great word, LC!!
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Let me add my vote to wallowing turtle. From what I saw and heard this weekend from my H, it describes how he is feeling perfectly. It is just so sad to read and see this extremely painful situation played out over and over and over. I have been in tears for days. Yes, I know not detached. So, I am on the roller coaster AND wallowing myself as the LBS!
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vacillant storm comes to mind.
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« Last Edit: April 14, 2012, 06:28:33 PM by Gallagher »
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