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MLC Monster The Humiliating Dance of ‘Pick Me’!
OP: June 28, 2012, 01:38:29 PM
The first one may help the newbies ...........and a good read for the rest of us she defo says it as it is lol xxxxxxxxxxxx

http://chumplady.com/2012/04/the-humiliating-dance-of-pick-me


/Dear Chump Lady, He’s worried about his girlfriend, WTF?
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Re: The Humiliating Dance of ‘Pick Me’!
#1: June 28, 2012, 02:03:11 PM
WGH

Love it!!  ;) ;D

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Re: The Humiliating Dance of ‘Pick Me’!
#2: June 28, 2012, 03:12:04 PM
Love it..... Since he definitely affair downed I have no worries.  I say she can have him right now with his drinking, his erratic behavior, his anger and his co-dependency.....while I work on my independence, losing weight, feeling good about myself, getting a new job and moving.....LOL. 
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Re: The Humiliating Dance of ‘Pick Me’!
#3: June 28, 2012, 06:17:06 PM
GREAT STUFF!! ;) ;)

Should show it to my BIL who thinks I am equally at fault with H for him leaving us and finding OW >:(

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Re: The Humiliating Dance of ‘Pick Me’!
#4: June 28, 2012, 06:22:26 PM
Quote from: Stillpraying on June 28, 2012, 06:17:06 PM
GREAT STUFF!! ;) ;)

Should show it to my BIL who thinks I am equally at fault with H for him leaving us and finding OW >:(

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LOL - yeah like you lead him around with his ---- whatever and helped him find his affair down... :)  Here honey I know you will like this one she doesn't work, she drinks all the time, she is your cousin and just perfect for you, she will leave her kids for you, she will validate all your poor decisions and she will adore your drunkness...  I am sure that is what I did. 

Sorry that is the picture that comes to my mind when an idiot says I am at fault for the OW scenario. 
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Re: The Humiliating Dance of ‘Pick Me’!
#5: June 28, 2012, 06:35:40 PM
Quote from: FindingJoJo on June 28, 2012, 06:22:26 PM
, she will validate all your poor decisions ...... 

Sorry that is the picture that comes to my mind when an idiot says I am at fault for the OW scenario.

Yes, I DIDN'T validate any of his poor decisions.  That was my biggest 'MISTAKE' in the marriage.  H: "You should be on my side as you're my WIFE"!!!!!
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Re: The Humiliating Dance of ‘Pick Me’!
#6: June 28, 2012, 06:55:11 PM
Quote from: Stillpraying on June 28, 2012, 06:35:40 PM
Yes, I DIDN'T validate any of his poor decisions.  That was my biggest 'MISTAKE' in the marriage.  H: "You should be on my side as you're my WIFE"!!!!!

Yeah they fail to realize that as the Husband they should be protecting, loving and treating their wife with love and kindness too.  They expect it from us 24/7 yet fail to grasp that maybe we are angry, tired and acting the way we are is because they demand so much that it sucks the lifeblood from us until they feel validated and justified for leaving us and yet they expect us to pick up all the pieces as they walk away and destroy the last bit of self respect we may have had.  Not only do they do this but then they keep reinforcing how everything bad is all our fault.  yeah sounds like we should be on their side.  I am glad this site and the advice here is teaching us to work on ourselves.  I guess you can see where my anger is.....lol  :-[

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Re: The Humiliating Dance of ‘Pick Me’!
#7: June 28, 2012, 07:29:10 PM
Oh, my goodness, what an awesome blog! Just shared it with my RL LBS "sisters."

THANKS!

I feel...taller. Or something.
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Re: The Humiliating Dance of ‘Pick Me’!
#8: June 28, 2012, 11:06:16 PM
quote fr NR: I feel...taller. Or something.

 ;D ;D ;D

So, but does this apply to mlc affairs?  and lbs's? 


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Re: The Humiliating Dance of ‘Pick Me’!
#9: June 29, 2012, 07:08:15 AM
Quote from: calamityj on June 28, 2012, 11:06:16 PM


So, but does this apply to mlc affairs?  and lbs's?

It applies to mine right now.  I believe the "Pick Me" dance applies to most of us after BD.
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