[underpressure]

Tried hard with that emoticon.

[With Gods Help!]

My D21.... 18 at the time found out about o/w before i did.....she was making a drink and h's phone was charging by the kettle......D said she only looked because it showed up a woman names......she read the message and was in absolute agony for 3 days......me and h had been back together over a wk .......he left for 6/7 wks and i never knew about her.........don't know if it was intuition or gut but i knew something was wrong.........because the day my D told me .......i was sent home with diarrhea that morning and only an hour later D breaks down in the kitchen and tells me.......she was absolutely heart broken and when she saw me literally fall to the floor with shock and grief..........she sat down beside me and we cried like never before..........awhile later when i do my inspector cluso bit and find out who she is..........i approached her and how i didn't kill her for the hurt she caused me but more importantly the torture she put my D18 through for those three days prior to her finding the text i will never know.........the o/w told me at that time that her and my h were finished and that he told o/w his heart would always belong to me (his wife lol) .......she also told me that she couldn't understand why my kids D and S would be upset as she said my D had told her she was happy for her and my h to be together .........well she dug her own grave with this comment ....because when i told D18 what o/w had said..............she got her car drove to o/w house and banged on the door (my D does not like violence) o/w wouldn't answer........so D18 shouted through the letter box that if she ever saw her out and about she would knock her out............my D18 was hysterical and her neighbor came out......o/w friends...........my D18 said do you know that wh*rer next door ......neighbor was like YES why........she said tell her i would never agree with what my Dad did to my mum never mind be happy that hes with that TRAMP.........you tell her from me if she knows whats good for her she will stay away from me.........o/w as never tried approaching my D or S ............her stupid lies made up my kids mind for them......they will never even acknowledge she exists..........so i never really had to worry about her seeing kids xxxxxxxxxxx   

[underpressure]

WGH,

wow. intense! I am glad your daughter was able to be direct to say the least.

I worry about younger children feeling that much rage but not being able to express it.

[toughtimes]

Wow, I have daydreams of going to H office and confronting OW. Can't even call her woman really she's like gawky teen! Have composed many tweets for her too, is it never a good idea to confront OW? I am not a person that believes in retribution or revenge, I believe the universe takes care of all that so would not do anything but I am tempted on a daily basis!

[underpressure]

I have tons of info on OW. She works at my favorite department store, unfortunately, and every time I go there I get queasy. So I thought I would face my fear and go down to the men's department and just LOOK. It was very strange. I didn't see her. I wonder if she would have recognized me from anywhere, like, say, his phone? The photos of me he has hidden in his closet? Meh.

I think it's safe for me to go shopping and not run into her. I don't think she works on the floor. (not going to touch that one).

[With Gods Help!]

I would love to knock some sense into h lol ............




Not sure if this is h reeling o/w in or visa versa 




This what attracts o/w to our h lol

 

This Mammas h ..........he likes stirring his soup x




This is me galing lol



Heres the one that was asked for in the first place



And finally sorry for the hijack but you would ask for emoticon lol ............xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[Moving Forward]

I know lots of things about the OW - the key ones being that she was a spinster who slept with a married man when she knew he had 2 children.......enough said ......complete affair down who will reap what she sows which is.....currently being married to my exH (who happens to be in the middle of an ugly MLC) who has anger issues, is rubbish with money and Oh did I mention he is a liar who slept with a spinster when he was married and had two awesome kids.

No wanting to sound cynical but it is what it is.

[underpressure]

I love the icon! thank goodness! Will have to keep that one close to hand.

My H thinks OW is the pinnacle of feminine perfection. To think that he would have to be severely messed up. So, that may very well be the answer to the mystery as to why these women go for married men in MLC. They are hosebags who need an irrational idiot to tell them they are virgin queens.

[NoRegrets]

I know lots of things about the OW - the key ones being that she was a spinster who slept with a married man when she knew he had 2 children.......enough said ......complete affair down who will reap what she sows which is.....currently being married to my exH (who happens to be in the middle of an ugly MLC) who has anger issues, is rubbish with money and Oh did I mention he is a liar who slept with a spinster when he was married and had two awesome kids.

No wanting to sound cynical but it is what it is.

Hah, I love it!

Yes, this is xH's OW, as well.

Technically she's not a spinster as she was married (still is?) but no kids. Seems a lot of the OW never had kids--interesting. Probably a good thing as they are nuts.

Many of the LBSs never had kids, either, but they are not nuts--their H's are.

Lots of nutsos here.

Apparently xH's OW is not insisting on a relationship with my boys and neither is xH; my sons say he NEVER mentions her, has gone to great lengths to hide her. I find this interesting. I do think she is all fantasy for xH and he wants to keep his real life separate from his fantasy life, since his fantasy life makes him look immoral, crazy, etc. He actually carries a bit of respect, though his mask slips from time. Enough people know the truth.

It will be interesting to see if OW puts more pressure on xH when he returns from his 3 week trip away with our son. That could be a game-changer--who knows.

It's possible OW is also in MLC and she has no need or want to be with anyone else's kids.

I do like the advice to be your kids' better option--be the lighthouse for THEM. It can be tough. I know I fall from time to time when I'm feeling insecure or hurt, but I know the right thing to do is to bite my tongue until I can be sweet. My kids know I'm the non-crazy parent. You know, the one who gives good advice because she makes good choices? Yes, I'm THAT one.

[calamity]

WGH - I'm laughing & trying to copy emoticons.