[Songanddance]

Lots of his podcasts are about 25 mins or so and very few are about the marriage per se. They are about how the spouse (that is seeking help) can do it for him/herself.

He really focusses on changing yourself and the connection and rarely talks about reconciliation.

[Songanddance]

Try this one - it's about FEAR and how our thoughts control us... once you've got past the camping rattlesnake story, it's very useful.

http://savethemarriage.com/stmblog/2013/12/fear-destroying-your-chances-saving-your-marriage-save-your-marriage-podcast/

[Songanddance]

This is a link to the page of 4 podcasts.
I have listened to number 5 - how to get unstuck and it hit home once again

Do check this page out.

http://savethemarriage.com/stmblog/2013/08/

[JD]

www.livestrong.com  has a lot of articles useful to we LBS.  For me the me the article dealing with passive aggressive people was a lifesaver.
Knowing the various types of abuse you can be subject to is important ( there are around 20).  Often behaviours we take as "normal" are really not and are abuse you must put a stop to...sometimes we discover we use abusive behaviour as well, which can be a shock.  I posted a list on this site somewhere, I hope it stayed stickied.
Brad Yates on youtube.com has some EFT techniques that helped me.

http://psychology.about.com/od/psychosocialtheories/a/psychosocial.htm
is a link to Erikson's developmental stages and  gives an accounting of what emotional development has to take place in ourselves and our spouses to be emotionally mature adults.

[31andcounting]

I agree.  I "found" Lee Baucom early on after BD.  Simply stated and made sense.  Had I not found It along with this site......I would of been a goner for sure!!
31andcounting

[JD]

Oh one more link that has been invaluable to me: http://www.lynneforrest.com/articles/2008/06/the-faces-of-victim/

[Darth Obo]

I agree.  I "found" Lee Baucom early on after BD.  Simply stated and made sense.  Had I not found It along with this site......I would of been a goner for sure!!
31andcounting

Lee's eBook was the first one I purchased immediately after BD. I also pulled down some of his short clips from Youtube. I still refer to his book regularly and the concepts he provides. It also came with some additional material & quick tips that got me started before finding this forum.

I didn't realize he had podcasts so will definitely check those out!


-OneByOne-

[Songanddance]

http://savethemarriage.com/stmblog/2013/09/your-most-important-tool-in-saving-your-marriage-podcast-episode-06/

This is podcast 6 - This is a MUST for all newbies IMHO

It talks about the most important tool - YOU!  Lee Baucom gives advice for looking after yourself physically, emotionally, spiritually and it really is exactly what we are taught here. Very sensible for those newbies who doubt any of the advice on this website....

[Songanddance]

Watch this 3 min you tube clip - your life in jelly beans.

I watched it and know now that I will not let MLC drag me down and waste precious time wondering if.....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BOksW_NabEk

[BB64]

A little something I found on my FB page this morning from one of my friends to me:




A Psychologist walked around a room while teaching Stress Management to an audience.

As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd be asked the "Half empty or Half full" question.

Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired:
"How heavy is this glass of water?"

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter.
It depends on how long I hold it.

If I hold it for a minute,
it's not a problem.

If I hold it for an hour,
I'll have an ache in my arm.

If I hold it for a day,
my arm will feel numb and paralyzed.

In each case,
the weight of the glass doesn't change,

But

The longer I hold it,
the heavier it becomes.

She continued,
"The Stresses and Worries in Life , are like that Glass of Water...

Think about them for a while and nothing happens.

Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt.

And

If you think about them all day long,
you will feel paralyzed –
incapable of doing anything....!!!"

Remember to put the Glass Down