[Songanddance]

http://www.marieclaire.co.uk/features/428395/confessions-of-a-first-time-mistress.html

And this is the article Bibi Lynch wrote about being a mistress. Yes it's a short affair but read her feelings about herself and the R.

[Songanddance]

http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b007qlvb/episodes/player

And this is the radio 4 listen again page on Woman's hour. Thursday 2nd Jan is a divorce phone in and Saturday 4th looks back at that phone in and looks at life after divorce and this is what I heard yesterday.

I AM NOT PROMOTING DIVORCE BUT SOME OF THE THINGS I HEARD ABOUT LIFE AFTER DIVORCE WAS HELPFUL AND WHAT WE ARE TOLD TO DO NOW.  It is also very sad and interesting to see how many people out there get divorced because of spouse's behaviour and it is clearly MLC but the LBS didn't have help in learning this.

[Songanddance]

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=30.0;all


Thanks to Calamity who posted this archived thread from 2010 onto ICAWC' s current thread. It's about the OW and very interesting reading.

[R]

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=30.0;all


Thanks to Calamity who posted this archived thread from 2010 onto ICAWC' s current thread. It's about the OW and very interesting reading.

I agree - gave me comfort in 4am this morning 

[Songanddance]

I signed up to Lee Baucom's podcasts (VERY helpful marriage guidance expert) They are accessible via ITunes too and are free. This one below is this weeks. I will try and re-post each one as I get it but I have a huge backlist of previous podcast links to do for you first.
So the writing below in blue is his introduction to his podcast and not written by me!

Quick question, and I already know the answer!

Do you find yourself trying to convince your spouse to work on the relationship?

Do you try logic and rational facts to "help" your spouse see your point?

Do you find yourself begging and pleading, trying to get your spouse to change their mind?

Do you notice that these strategies fail?  Do you notice that many times, when you try to convince, when you argue, beg and plead, that you actually lose ground?

This week, I tackle the problem with those strategies of convincing, begging, and pleading.  I look at why you do it, and why you want to take a different approach.

You can find the audio right here:
http://wp.me/p3YHG4-lS
As always, the audio is free and doesn't even require an email.  Just take a listen.

Please leave a comment there and let me know what you think!

Here is the link again for the podcast:
>>>> http://wp.me/p3YHG4-lS <<<<

Talk soon.

Best wishes.

Faithfully,
Lee
Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

P.S.:  If you find yourself "convincing," begging, pleading or manipulating, let's find a better way.  Take a listen to this week's audio right here:
>>>> http://wp.me/p3YHG4-lS <<<<

[R]

For those in the UK, on radio 2 after 1pm is a psychiatrist who is talking about men and depression and why men crack. Will post a listen again link

[Songanddance]

Am listening at this moment - have also sent e-mail stating that depression can lead upto full blown midlife crisis and it needs to be taken seriously. Let's see if it's read out.

[R]

http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b03pm5rt

Here is the listen again link - I didn't hear it, so can't ascertain its usefulness, but if you go about an hour in, that's where it starts. 
xxx

[calamity]

Maze, Midlife (2012-04-25). Detach and Survive: A Book of Self-Care for the Wives of Midlife Crisis Men (Kindle Location 996). Midlife Maze. Kindle Edition. $5.

This is purely for the lbs [I know it says wives but would apply equally to husbands].

Nothing we haven't heard before but it is entirely devoted to the lbs & it helps to hear the message from many different voices.

From Callan's thread.

[Songanddance]

Here is the listen again link - I didn't hear it, so can't ascertain its usefulness, but if you go about an hour in, that's where it starts. 

I did hear it and it sort of deals with men and how they suppress and signs to look for. However it seemed to imply that men now have a raw deal as they are meant to be all singing and dancing as the perfect man - bit glib in places. Tended to focus on the suicidal aspects although there was one woman (not me) who emailed in a story that sounded like serious ML transition and that it had taken a few years to resolve. H didn't abandon or affair or wallow but there was certainly a trigger and violent sudden outburst where she thought he had lost his mind.

Listen to it - at least it's about depression and the sneaky way it has with men!