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#20: August 25, 2013, 07:32:43 AM
Calamity, thank you for the article links. The abandonment one was exactly what I needed to read today.
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#21: August 25, 2013, 04:07:08 PM
SongandDance - thanks so much for starting this thread!

Here's one article from a blog that helped me understand depression better.

http://www.storiedmind.com/self-esteem/why-depressed-men-leave-1/
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#22: August 26, 2013, 12:25:18 AM
The New Me - awesome article! Thanks for sharing :)
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#23: August 27, 2013, 05:08:33 AM
Thanks for these links it is certainly a helpful insight in to how 'minds' work.

Can this thread be put so it is always at the top to allow easy access ?

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#24: August 27, 2013, 05:34:54 AM
Great article TNM.  Has your H read it? I would be very interested to see what my H thought of it because it describes him very accurately.  It would be very interesting to see if he still thinks that it wasn't depression and was something else. 
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#25: August 27, 2013, 08:52:19 PM
No, Hope and Faith he hasn't read it but I've talked to him about it and the site in general. He agrees that depression played a part. He's known he's had depressive tendencies for a long time but has tried to deny their effect on him. There are a lot of other great articles on the site where the writer talks about how his depression has affected his wife and how vigilant he has to be in his awareness of the warning signs. My H and I talked about that, too.
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#26: August 30, 2013, 03:42:40 PM
This one is on letting go and is  about an hour long. I watched this over two nights and fell asleep during each time but two days on from watching it I feel different more positive. Who knows? It might have been subliminal messaging! The monk is British but quite high powered in that he holds very important titles and has a very British sense of humour. His style is anecdotal but very enlightening.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=USC5MJVZLy8

Going to watch other clips from him and will post them on if they can help
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#27: August 30, 2013, 03:48:32 PM
This is on the opposite of attachment to our family, relationships, possessions
Just started watching it - already engaged my attention fully.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L50xVM7wwss
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#28: September 13, 2013, 01:15:12 PM
Another one by Ajahn Brahm on "Control" and how to let it go. Refers to relationships quite a bit. Fast forward to about 9 minutes in.

Listened to this twice today and it's really helped me ...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yEnU5BBr_7Y
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#29: October 16, 2013, 02:48:35 AM
Hi Songanddance
As requested................................ :)

http://www.mysticmamma.com/lunar-eclipse-full-moon-in-aries-october-18-2013/
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