[GottaBeMe]

Sometimes I do remember my dreams now.  After going so long without dreams, , it kind of concerned me when I finally recognized it. 

Probably for about a year after xh left me, I had terrible dreams and then they just stopped.  I was glad for that but I also didn't have/remember any dreams of any kind.  It was after about 2 years while talking to a friend about dreams when I told her that I hadn't had a dream in so long, and I wondered what it meant. 

I've healed so much, and now I'm dreaming again, I just wonder if there's a correlation between the two.

[True to myself]

Maybe it was a self-defence mechanism and your body/mind knew it had to stop the terrible dreams.

I'm glad you have healed so much. You're sounding good 

[GottaBeMe]

Thanks TTM,  I am good! 

I thought that maybe that was an explanation but who knows?  It used to make me very curious though, when I realized that I wasn't dreaming but I never went digging to try to figure out why.  During that time though, I had good spells, bad spells, periods of sleeping well, not sleeping well.....still I didn't dream, or didn't remember them.

You do just get to a point where you are truly at peace.  Life is not all rosy but I accept things for what they are.  I even handle contacts from xh with surprising indifference now.  That is my true measure because I've had many periods throughout the years where I'm doing quite well, and he could send me spinning, whether it be for minutes, or in some cases for months.
Just until recently, a text from him would get my heart racing, or a twinge in my stomach.  It might have gotten me excited,  or happy, and sometimes it made me angry, depending on what I was going through at the time.  I used to be concerned with what or if I should reply.  I don't anymore, at all.  He still texts me from time to time.  I find myself smiling when he does, and I just reply simply and answer his questions.  I never miss an opportunity to throw a truth dart in his direction, but I do it with kindness.  After the exchange is done, I smile and go about my business, and think well, this is a strange life but it's mine.....oh well!

[Synicca]

LOve is...


Im not sure if I can figure that one all out....but the ankle thing sounds like you feel weighed down by your ankles
the hearts meaning the love you feel maybe holding you down....idk..not liking the tattoos...might mean
you hate feeling like " love holding you down?? "

I am usually better at this...LOL

I dont remember any of my dreams anymore...I think it may be because I take sleeping pills
and sleep to heavy now...I used to have very vivd, meaning dreams...I miss them!

[WarriorPriestess]

Bumping with a couple good links on dreams and dream work:

http://www.jeremytaylor.com/pages/dreamwork.html

http://www.patriciagarfield.com/

[WarriorPriestess]

Tips to remember your dreams:
http://www.gdelaney.com/recall.htm

Tips to incubate a dream:
http://www.gdelaney.com/sleeponit.htm

[kikki]

Thanks WP - a fascinating subject.  I very rarely remember my dreams unless I'm stressed.  Must start writing them down.
I have had a few very vivid dreams re my H.  They are so real, it is like he is physically present.  I always wake up quite startled afterwards - having felt his physical presence quite intensely.  Haven't ever had anything like this before.

[StandandDeliver]

For a long time H did not appear in any of my dreams, then he made appearances in ones that were painful - almost like nightmares. Recently he is in my dreams less and less and the contexts are changing - to one where I have more power than in the prevous dreams where I seemed to always be in the victim situation.

I had a funny dream the other night (I hope that it was not too inappropriate).  It was like a movie where I was watching myself and also being myself at the same time (dreams can be strange that way) .I was on a ship in the middle of the ocean (I have no idea why) with a new (imagined, no one I actually know) boyfriend and we were whispering to each other (I don't know what about). Then the scene changed and we found ourselves in our cabin being intimate, when H walked into the room and his jaw dropped and he was completely shocked. I did not see him at first, but when I saw him we stopped and then H ran out of the room. I felt bad for him and thought about running after him but then decided that my loyalty was with my new boyfriend and went back to making love. I woke up at that point with a very weird feeling.

[StandandDeliver]

I am sometimes amazed by intuition. I remember a point a few months before BD, where I realised that I was not able to imagine H and I in old age - it was like a mental block, I just could not picture it even though I used to imagine us as an old couple together alot.

Now I don't really know what I imagine happening as I get older...

[ladybird]

I had a dream where I was kicking the cr*p out of the OW and my H and they were not fighting back.  When I awoke from that dream I felt SO much better about my sitch, lol!

I've had lots and lots of dreams of my H and in most of them we are coming together to kiss and make love, but it never happens!  We both want to in the dream and we kiss, but something always happens where it all stops or gets interrupted somehow. My H had ED issues when we were together before he left, so perhaps this is one reason this happens in my dreams. 

It amazes me that the connection I feel to my H is still so strong even after all the pain he has caused me.