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OP: August 16, 2010, 08:30:43 PM
Hello my friends, I was parusing another MLC website today (I often do that to get people onto this site - shhhh) and came across a woman who is in a MLC looking for help.  The people on the website BLASTED her because she was honest about what she was feeling and doing. 

I wanted to see if it would be ok with all of you if I could direct her to this site for help from us.  Any thoughts?

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Re: MLCer Reaching Out
#1: August 16, 2010, 08:57:33 PM
Please do.  I think people would be open and hearing her point of view may help us to understand our MLCers better.
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#2: August 16, 2010, 09:31:44 PM
I agree.  I thought that the guys could get some useful insight.  She is still with her husband and doesn't want to get a divorce.  I can't promise that she will post, but she is interested in other websites where she can get feedback.

I will have to ask RCR to delete this thread before I send her over here. Haha
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#3: August 16, 2010, 09:52:47 PM
It is good that she is seeking help.  Since she is considering seeking help, still with her husband, and isn't looking for a divorce, she may be in more of a MLT than crisis.  It doesn't sound like she's looking to "run", which is also good.
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#4: August 16, 2010, 10:38:13 PM
I think it's a crisis; she has had multiple affairs and is looking for more, but doesn't want to leave her H. 

Should I tell RCR to delete this thread tonight; or wait for more people to weigh in?
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Re: MLCer Reaching Out
#5: August 17, 2010, 12:08:48 AM
I wouldn't worry about deleting it.
You didn't say anything that can get you arrested.

There is a website for support of women in MLC.
RCR knows it. I will have to look it up if she needs it.
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Re: MLCer Reaching Out
#6: August 17, 2010, 12:09:47 AM
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I think on this forum we are supportive and non judgemental. MLC as RCR puts it is a dis-ease and no one chooses to get on the rollerocaster.
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#7: August 17, 2010, 05:14:37 AM
I think we can learn so much from all sides of MLC. I have had some of the most amazing insight from people who have been through MLC. We may not want to hear some of it, but we don't want to live most of this either.
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Re: MLCer Reaching Out
#8: August 17, 2010, 09:05:55 AM
I personally would be interested in hearing what she has to say: there is far more literature on men in MLC than women.

And I agree with justasking: this is one of the more friendly and non-judgmental forums I've been on, and I'd like to think we'd make her feel welcome to share whatever she feels like discussing with us.
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Re: MLCer Reaching Out
#9: August 17, 2010, 11:05:41 AM
fortysixty has a private forum, as does SYMCinc.

I would be fascinated by 'the other side's' viewpoint. Can't imagine I'd be of much help tho.
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