[justbelieve]

It bothers me that we have to go through so much devastation, pain and darkness before we finally find the light. Only to discover that the light was there inside of us, hidden amongst the shadows, all along.
(and by 'we' i mean both the LBS and MLCer)

AWESOME THREAD BY THE WAY! ♥

[crazyjourney]

It bothers me

That he wont wake the f up !!!  and I never use that word.

The damage he may have done to our sons for their future.

That I dont even know how I feel about him anymore.

Oh what a mess it just bothers me, so maybe I do still love him.

Time will tell and that bothers me too.

xx

[Poppy]

It bothers me.....



That the man I trusted....let us down...

That one wrong word from him....sends my tummy into a pretzel knot (lol)

That my H is oblivious to the damage he's caused...

That before I go to sleep at night...it's on my mind and again when I wake up....

That his family think it's Ok....as long as he's happy....

That I didn't see this coming....

That he's broken our marriage vows..... something so precious...



That my life train has derailed.....

[GBM]

It bothers me that my children’s own father tainted their view of the world, specifically relationships and made it a less safe place. Lies, betrayal, and repugnant behavior was no longer something that just "other people" had.  It was brought right to their doorstep.

It bothers me that my children are denied a father that they can respect, or trust.

It bothers me that my grandchildren are denied a grandfather who could love them, or be a positive influence in their lives.  I am bothered by the story that I will have to tell them in the future of what happened to their grandfather. I don’t know what I will say.

It bothers me that one who influenced and helped to shape our family structure, our values and our beliefs that we taught our children, was the one to tear down that structure, and the one who tried to make a complete mockery of what was taught.

It bothers me that I struggle financially because of what he’s done, and it permeates almost every aspect of my existence.  It affects my quality of life, it limits the time that I can spend with my children and grandchildren, and it endangers my health and my safety.

It bothers me that my elderly parents have lost a son in-law who could do things to help them.  They were very good to him, and helped him out a lot in the past.  He hurt and betrayed them too.

It bothers me that even he is not happy, and this is all such a shame, and a waste.  The irony of his being so selfish is that he ends up with nothing.

It bothers me that there are so many people that are suffering because of all of this. 

[stayed]

Oh wow!!!

It bothers me that I recognize every single thing, that every single one of you, ARE BOTHERED BY!

Oh ughhhhhhhh.

lots of love and hugs... Stayed

[OldPilot]

It bothers me that we have to have this thread.

BUT

I am glad that we are able to, glad that everyone is able to write it down and get it out.
The scripts are so much the same.
It proves how biological all this is.

The forces are stronger than anything we can imagine.

[Wed2Him?Whatever.]

This is a brilliant thread with great contributions.  Kudos to Azioni for starting it!!

It bothers me that...

I can never again go back to believing wholeheartedly in "The Fairytale."
When I hear about someone's upcoming nuptials it makes me wince and not smile.
I'd thought I did everything right in choosing a mate, yet it has made no difference.
Men with wives who treat them horribly don't leave, yet my H just had to leave me.
My H's version of what happened with us has been spread around as gospel truth.
The word "Divorced" will soon apply to me, and I never ever believed that it would.
There's the possibility of my H's life actually starting to improve once he's rid of me.

[Finding Hope]

It too bothers me that I can recognize and feel sad about everything, everyone has written.

It bothers me that we are all here.

It bothers me that no matter what the outcome, we will NEVER, EVER,  be the same.

FH

[stayed]

It bothers me that no matter what the outcome, we will NEVER, EVER,  be the same.

I have to intervene here and say...YAHOOOOOOOOOO... and I hope we never are again!  I like to think we are way, way, way better then that...

hugs Stayed

[misdiz]

It bothers me that:

I can't listen to the radio anymore as EVERY SINGLE SONG either reminds me of him in the past or fits things right now!

He thinks seeing his kids for 2 hours a week is perfectly acceptable.

He thinks his wh@re "appreciates" him.  And worse that I DIDN'T!!!

He defends HER but puts ME down!

That I have to struggle every single day to keep my self from becoming a nasty vindictive person who seeks revenge.

That I can relate to every single post in this thread!!!!!