[With Gods Help!]

I really enjoyed reading this article..................much of this relates to our H/W whist in MLC..........there is other ones there too...........


http://whatislovedrcookerly.com/816/false-forms-of-love-shadow-side-attachments/

[justbelieve]

Awesome article! That really helped me today. Thanks

[Ready2Transform]

That one definitely went in my Bookmarks folder.  Thank you!

[Trustandlove]

Excellent -- much food for thought, and a good quote or two when we need it as well! 

[Faithfully Yours]

Thank you for sharing. It was very helpful for me to read this today. Hugs.

[31andcounting]

I loved finding this!! I had actually researched limerance (never even knew the word before this much less what it meant)  good Information, Thanks!!

[superdog]

Hey, thanks for posting this.

Strangely it's the only part of the MLC crisis that makes any kind of sense to me. I can see why our h's and w's are attracted to these people. My h's "friend" is so not his usual type at all. He said to me that she was a female version of him and that's actually correct , the version he really deep down doesn't want to be. The shadow picked like for like.

It's my take on it that when they face the shadow side and the real one emerges again thats when their abhorance rears itself again. This person would then remind them of all the things they did not like about themselves. Just my take.

SD
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[Anjae]

I think the other person has more to do with the state of our MLCer Anima (the unconscious female inner personality of a man) and Animus (the unconscious male inner personality of a woman) than with the Shadow in itself.

The Shadow will alter the MLCer real Anima/Animus and the other person reflect the current MLCer state. We’re the normal complimentary person of our MLCer. In MLCer the Anima/Animus is imbalanced and that is why the other person often looks like the female/male version of our MLCer.

RCR talks a little about the Anima/Animus in the article about the Shadow: http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_shadow.html 

For me Limerance is just another name for infatuation. 

[forthetrees]

http://news.yahoo.com/psychiatric-treatments-may-change-personality-135354106.html

very interesting article

[Thundarr]

Very interesting, and I agree somewhat. Some personality theories take into account that personality is fluid and dynamic based on what works or doesn't work in a given situation.  I could expand in this but it would be somewhat off-topic.  At any rate, if one subscribes to one of these theories then the article would be right in line with that.