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#140: May 11, 2013, 01:51:38 PM
Quote from: HurtSoul on May 11, 2013, 04:59:13 AM
You never listen...you make all the decisions

XW told me a few days after BD that I have NEVER let her pick out any of our vehicles or be in on any big decisions.  This was said as we were sitting in the porch swing together looking at the two vehicles SHE picked out and took me to look at after the fact.  The one we traded off for the minivan she had bought before I had so much as seen it.

XW also told me on the day she moved into her "mansion in the ghetto" that this all happened because several years ago she had wanted to buy end tables and I talked her out of it.  "If only I had been able to buy those end tables....."  Yes, she really said that!!
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Re: MLC script
#141: May 11, 2013, 01:55:59 PM
Quote from: Thundarr on May 11, 2013, 01:51:38 PM
Quote from: HurtSoul on May 11, 2013, 04:59:13 AM
You never listen...you make all the decisions

XW told me a few days after BD that I have NEVER let her pick out any of our vehicles or be in on any big decisions.  This was said as we were sitting in the porch swing together looking at the two vehicles SHE picked out and took me to look at after the fact.  The one we traded off for the minivan she had bought before I had so much as seen it.

XW also told me on the day she moved into her "mansion in the ghetto" that this all happened because several years ago she had wanted to buy end tables and I talked her out of it.  "If only I had been able to buy those end tables....."  Yes, she really said that!!

This is priceless thundarr!!!
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Re: MLC script
#142: May 11, 2013, 04:07:29 PM
This thread got me a bit nervous initially...my H doesn't seem to say quite the same things so I got to wondering if mine is really MLC. I don't know why that matters but it does. But then i got a few "hits"

It's not you it's me
I'm in a bad place, I'm not happy and I haven't been happy for a long time
We drifted apart
We've become different people (yea 25 years and 2 kids will do that)
You'll find someone else
You're a good person but I just can't be with you any more
iLYBINILWY
I still care about you but my feelings have changed
It is what it is
Why are you upset? We've talked about this. (We haven't)
Home is not the haven it used to me
I felt marginalised in my own home (well, join in instead of sitting on the sidelines)
We were too insular ( what does that even mean?)
I was too organised, kept the house too tidy
Regarding MC: it won't change anything for me but it might help me find the words to tell you why I need to leave
I don't know what the future hold, or where I'll be, coz I've got no ties (ummmm....2 children?)
Regarding OW to.D11: it's not serious
To D18 who suggested he tell me about OW before telling D11: why would I tell her? (Maybe coz I'm your wife and the mother of the 11 year old you are about to devastate)

There,  i feel better now.

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Re: MLC script
#143: May 11, 2013, 04:13:29 PM
3L--I forgot this! 
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Regarding MC: it won't change anything for me but it might help me find the words to tell you why I need to leave

The hster said, I'll go just to help you through this... 
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Re: MLC script
#144: May 11, 2013, 04:17:33 PM
We've become different people (yea 25 years and 2 kids will do that)

this is so true, of course we have changed!!!!

I felt marginalised in my own home (well, join in instead of sitting on the sidelines)

I got this one, slight variation "you pushed me out, you never let me bond with our baby daughter" .... Uhm, you were working ALL the time and never here!
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Re: MLC script
#145: May 11, 2013, 04:56:38 PM
Lots of MLC hits there LoveLaughLive  :)

There is some that is pure script - such as ILYBIANILWU
and then there is a lot where they want to run and use any excuse to justify it, all the while blaming us.  Yup - your H is having a MLC. 
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#146: May 11, 2013, 05:04:25 PM
Quote from: calamity on May 11, 2013, 04:13:29 PM
3L--I forgot this! 
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Regarding MC: it won't change anything for me but it might help me find the words to tell you why I need to leave

The hster said, I'll go just to help you through this... 

Mine too... do they actually believe this???
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Re: MLC script
#147: May 11, 2013, 05:23:36 PM
    Here's a good one. Yesterday on a schoolbus field trip D13 says to H "Daddy the mood stone we gave you to hold turned black. That means anxious. What are you anxious about?"
    He says "Whenever we talk about Mommy I get anxious."
    She says "Oh but we weren't talking about Mommy."  :o :o :o
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Re: MLC script
#148: May 11, 2013, 08:40:15 PM
LLL,

Don't worry, your H seems to be following the script closer than you can yet realize.  In time you will have more clarity over what has transpired and what still is to.  You reminded me of a couple more from my XW:

- We could go to counseling to learn to co-parent.  That would have to be the only thing we go for.  I'm afraid if we go you will find a way to save this marriage and I don't want to take a chance on that. (We never went, but re-read that last sentence again.....)

- (To her cousin on FB who offered her condolences when she found out) - It's okay, it's what I wanted and I know the kids will be okay as long as I'm happy.  And Thundarr will be okay.  He's a therapist.  He'll know what to do."  So, I'm not allowed to be hurt because I'm a therapist?.....
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Re: MLC script
#149: May 11, 2013, 08:51:01 PM
My H thought I would be fine because I had my children and so many friends. So therefore it was alright for me :0/

It doesn't matter how many friends you have (I know this helps), but when your whole world/life is ripped apart - you will not feel 'fine' for a VERY long time!

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