[Serendipity]

Interesting... On death. (This is what h has been struggling with for a long time. Even before bd. prob the past few years)

To dream that you die in your dream symbolizes inner changes, transformation, self-discovery and positive development that is happening within you or your life. You are undergoing a transitional phase and are becoming more enlightened or spiritual. Although such a dream may bring about feelings of fear and anxiety, it is no cause for alarm as it is often considered a positive symbol. Dreams of experiencing your own death usually means that big changes are ahead for you. You are moving on to new beginnings and leaving the past behind. These changes does not necessarily imply a negative turn of events. Metaphorically, dying can be seen as an end or a termination to your old ways and habits. So, dying does not always mean a physical death, but an ending of something. If you dream that someone is telling you that you are going die, then it implies that you are being pressured to make an important change or choice. You are about to embark on some new life adventure.

On a negative note, to dream that you die may represent involvement in deeply painful relationships or unhealthy, destructive behaviors. You may feeling depressed or feel strangled by a situation or person in your waking life. Perhaps your mind is preoccupied with someone who is terminally ill or dying. Alternatively, you may be trying to get out of some obligation, responsibility or other situation. You are desperately trying to escape from the demands of your daily life.

To see someone dying in your dream signifies that your feelings for that person are dead or that a significant change/loss is occurring in your relationship with that person. Alternatively, you may want to repress that aspect of yourself that is represented by the dying person. If you see a stranger die in your dream, then it implies that you are feeling detached from the changes that are happening around you.

[fidelle]

Not helping your thread much but you made me realise that I am recalling no dreams at all right now..for the last probably 12 months. I used to have quite vivid dreams but now...none.

I did have a pretty obvious dream early after BD...bumped into H who was with a woman who was short, young, short dark pixie cut hair, heaps of makeup, very cutesy-pie, flat chested. I woke feeling sick to the stomach but soon realised I had dreamed up an OW who was my exact opposite. So it wasn't like a prediction or anything just my brain over thinking stuff.

Hehehe LLL, I'm picturing a tall., blonde , buxom bombshell  ..what an idiot your H is 

[LaughLoveLive]

LOL Fidelle! Hehehe!! Actually I am no longer blonde...

On the subject of dreams, I have recently remembered that i had a recurring dream/nightmare as a child - of being left behind. Left on the side of the road as the car drove off, for example, forgotten. I have realised that throughout my life - school years, teenage years, even through my marriage - I always carried that fear. Of being left out, being alone, being lonely.  With all I have learned about Law of Attraction, seems like maybe i manifested that situation and my "dreams" came true. Luckily, I am learning the lesson that to be alone does not have to mean lonely. Perhaps that is a purpose of this MLC journey for me.

[fidelle]

LOL Fidelle! Hehehe!! Actually I am no longer blonde...

Hehehe ..did you start thinking? oops  no offence intended to all those wonderful blonde bombshells out there...I used to be blonde too 

strangely enough, I  posted on Phoenix' thread about one of the very few recurring dreams I've ever had and that was that I was leaving our beautiful farm in tears because H had decided to sell. I always woke up with a sense of relief thinking it was only a dream and we would never leave. I don't dream much but the few dreams I have had of H have been mostly nice ones and we are together...only time will tell

And you know LLL, you are not alone...even if we're not physically there with you, you have a FABULOUS companionship of souls xxx

[in it]

http://www.dreammoods.com/

I've used this site for quite a while now.

It includes alternative meaning for most things.  I'll relate a reoccurring one that the ex had before BD.

The ex is a fairly large man..6'4" 300 lbs and one thing that scares him is something bigger than him. He doesn't encounter much of that in real life.

Anyway. He'd have this reoccurring nightmare about a huge bear chasing him..didn't matter where he went what he did. He'd run into a house and the bear would rip the door off the hinges of house trying to get to him. He'd climb up a tree the bear would be right behind him.

He finally did tell me the bear would catch him, rip his chest open and he could feel the cold air rush in.

After first BD I sat in the corner of my bedroom closet talking to him on the phone. I was so scared I was shaking and crying I said to him " Remember the bear? I think this is it"

When I went back up there he was dreaming about dinosaurs chasing him. I think I looked it up and it was old age or something like that..I don't remember.

Focus on you and what your dream might mean..this dictionary also includes feelings you might be having at the time.

Keep a dream journal and focus on how the dream made you feel. Sometimes it provides answers to what you are consciously thinking.

[dadspearl]

Init,
I use this website OFTEN! I love it! I have had some weird a$$dreams since BD and have looked them up. All are spot on to what is happening in my life. I haven't had any interpretations that were "helpful" per say, but insightful nonetheless. I had one last week where I was driving my car across a very narrow and shaky bridge and didn't think I would make it across, but did. Interesting. I love dream interpretation. I am trying to get more adept at recalling my dream(s) when I first wake up. Thanks for starting this thread!

[in it]

I've found the site very useful also..I don't dream very much right now. I sleep like a log most of the time.

Glad this will help!

((Hugs))

[Sunny]

Who has dreams about their MLCer and/or OW?

I'm 17 months in and still regularly dream about H and OW. At least twice a week. Often upsetting too. I don't know why as I am very focused on my life and goals, very rarely even thinking of H.

Anyway would be interested in other people's experiences and thoughts. Thanks xo

[TopsyTurvy]

Hi Sunny,

I am 8 months since BD but only 1 month since finding out about OW.  I  have just started to dream about them and I don't like it.  I can block them during the day but have no control at night.  It makes me wonder if I just can't detach.  They are usually dreams of them in my house... I suppose I`m scared of losing my home.

[Lovely1]

Sunny

I have dreamt (rather nicely) about my solicitor!

I have only deamt once about OW, and once last nght, where I asked her to be generous in the settlement between me and H. Funny I should contact her in my dreams just when I hear she has left H.