[Sunny]

Been having some strange, disturbing dreams about H. Last night in my dream: H shows up, having put up my tent in a nearby field (H in real life dislikes camping) and at first I was happy to see him then realised he and OW had been living there because they'd been evicted due to taking drugs. The baby had been put into care and H had this blank empty look, his face and body puffy and weird looking. I left, took nothing but my animals and moved into a flat, like for abused women. I knew he was beyond saving and I had to get out and save myself. Pretty grim!

[LaughLoveLive]

A friend of mine has been doing some dream workshop sessions and has passed on a few tips for interpreting dreams. I find it hard to recall dreams but if I start, follow a train if thought, think about how I feel, and start to write things down I can maybe gather more of those elusive dream tendrils.

My friend says we need to be aware of what has been on our kind in the las pt day or so. The first 2/3 of a dream will be about what's in your mind. The final third is a message from your soul.

Since using this basic technique I have been able to make sense out if some if my recent dreams and have found it calming and reassuring.

[Sunny]

I've been finding I'm having many more dreams about H and OW now. I find it very annoying as I do feel much more detached and rarely think of H now. I really find it frustrating that I'm having these dreams and have my very first thought of the day to be abut H! I'm 24 months in now.

Just having a moan as I find it so frustrating! Overall I think my level of detachment is quite good.

[Stacia]

I'm only 3 months in and dont dream about OW, thank goodness. That sounds horrible.
I DO dream about H, though, about 3 times a week. They are good dreams, where we adore each other, laugh, ML - all very much like the good times in our relationship. I wake up feeling a sad longing for times gone past.

[Thunder]

I occasionally dream of my X.  Their usually good.  He has no ow but I did dream one time he did.  Go figure.

[Thunder]

dreamt  : )

[OceanLady]

Sunny,  funny you would bring this subject up now.  A few nights ago I did have a dream because I am on a dating site and I got a message from a guy asking if I was interested in a hook-up, saying that he was in a R but there was no passion or excitement in that R.  I told him No Way, I will not hurt another woman and I will not be The OW.  This must have upset me that he would even have the b@lls to ask me this.  That night I had a dream with my mother, son, and XH in it...the ppl that I love the most I suppose.  All I can remember is that I was yelling at H about how could he act like that and do what he did.  It seems that the hook-up question bothered my subconscious.  I do not recall ever having a dream with OW in it, I give her no mind space, but I have had nice dreams about my xH and did wake up the next morning missing him.  Sigh!!!   

[Dji76]

Stacia, I'm 10 weeks out from BD today. No OM that I'm aware of. There was an EA but he saw her monster and RAN. They have no contact now according to someone "in the know". I also dream of the good times and agree it is quite painful. Hope is a dangerous drug.

[Stacia]

I also dream of the good times and agree it is quite painful. Hope is a dangerous drug.

I'm reading Buddhist teachings about letting go of hope because it's flip side is fear. You fear you wont get what you hope for. i want to learn to be content with the Now. I feel I'm making so much progress during the day. Then I have a dream so real that it feels absolutely possible. It is definitely painful. Hope does feel like a dangerous drug.
Hang in there Dji76 and I will too.

[MyKrazyLife]

I have dreams about my MLCer. In them, she's generally ignoring me and/or with some OM.
They're much less frequent than when I was still closer to BD, but they can still mess up my head and attitude for a day or so after having them.