[calamity]

Old thread:

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=3564.0;all#lastPost

[toughtimes]

This really is my favourite thread!!!!

I have just been reading and cannot believe how similar some of the things our MLCers say are.

I am 15 months post BD and the crazy comments have all but disappeared. Is this script?

[27 years]

tughtimes I agree with your similarity comment. For some odd reason just that makes me feel less alone in this crazy journey.

As for everything about pets, I can see my H distancing himself from our dog. She is 2 1/2 and has been his baby since he brought her home as a pup. He often commented she was more human than dog to him. Now although he's not mean to her he does get irritated when she wants to play too much especially when he's texting.  And i dont think hes taken her for a walk more than 3 or 4 times early this summer, last year was nearly daily. It's really sad how she's gone from being such a treasure to him to now more often an irritant.

[calamity]

One I had forgotten:

Just draw a line & move on.

After 37 years, just draw a line & move on.  This doesn't sound like his way of speaking either--mlc talk or ow?

[panda]

After a crazy conversation, H said    'I am on this path because it is where it has led me'

And another, business like question about the dishwasher - 'Will the dishwasher be going on intra-day?'

'You were very happy and I was not.......you will never change'  clearly its all my fault!!!

[Songanddance]

This probably isn't script but just thought i'd share the giggle I got.
H now does his own washing and, as I had mentally predicted, after tumble drying wrongly, he decided he needed to iron his shirt collars. The following questions show how little notice he took of what I did even though we have been married nearly 25 years. Bear in mind, he is also an engineer.
I must add that I didn't reply to any of them just stood back and observed from a distance.
"Where's the ironing board?"
"Where's the iron?"
"Is this the bit for the steam?"
" What kind of water should I put in it?"
" Which is the steam part on the dial?"
He then spent 25 minutes ironing 3 collars!!
Oh MLC - you do make me laugh sometimes!!!!

[Slow Fade]

After a crazy conversation, H said    'I am on this path because it is where it has led me'

I love this.

One thing my H said all of the time was "Its exactly the same, only different!"

[BB64]

Something along those lines from Scatterbrains...

''I know me moving out is a bit drastic and selfish but I have to''

So if you think it is drastic do you not think that there could be a better solution?

Also, and I love this one:

He was hungover one day and announced he had been drinking a whole bottle of red wine the night before, to which I said:

'All on your own?''
''Yes, I like my own company!''....said with venom by the way

I thought to myself: ''Right, you like your company, but only when you are drunk? Ahuh, can't stand yourself sober then?'

So funny really!

[lawprofessor]

Thank you all for the comments about the MLC and pets.  The strange thing is my female disliked him before MLC, but seems to sense he is not well.  When he visited once she was almost protective of him, laying near him while he slept-on the couch, but when he was awake she stayed attached to me, watching him.  My male who is super friendly to the whole world stayed as far from him as possible.  I think he could sense the anger in Genius when Genius was awake.

One of the things that I loved about Genius and attracted me in the beginning of our relationship was his sense of humor.  We watched Black Adder, the Simpsons, American Dad, Charlie Chaplain, the old Batman shows, and the Beverly Hillbillies to name a few.  We went to comedy clubs all around the world.  Now he has absolutely NO sense of humor.  It is as though it evaporated about two months before bomb drop.  I remember going to a theater production with him and laughing uproariously.  He sat next to me stone faced, looking at me with the most puzzled expression on his face.  I remember asking him if he was ill.  He refused to tell me what was wrong.  He never even cracked a smile while watching his favorite old Batman series show.  He asked me to send him some jokes while he was staying with OW in another country as he was feeling down.   
He called me to tell me "Thank you, I found them to be funny to a degree."  (Very formal and stiff.) 

I cannot remember the last time he really laughed and smiled.  Even in his vacation pictures with OW people comment that he looks ill, mad, etc.  Sad really since we had so much fun together for years and so many laughs. 

But that lack of humor really helped me detach and I can honestly say without the humor I am not attracted to him one bit.  Great for detachment!

[justbelieve]

After a crazy conversation, H said    'I am on this path because it is where it has led me'

Wow! This is so similar to something mine said at the start, just after BD... he said 'I just feel like i'm on a different path' in the saddest voice. it was weird..