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OP: October 03, 2013, 05:11:06 PM
I've found a lot of support on this forum ..both women and men. But a lot of online educational information about infidelity involves men cheating on women. My  question is: What about the women who cheat on men?

This must devastate these men on this board. I thought it would be good to start a post of things that can help men pick themselves up from this kind of betrayal.

I thought this blog/website informative.  Gentlemen... please look a on the internet and post an address that may help express HOW YOU FEEL?

Look at the one below this and see what you think.  Good or bad say what you think,

http://www.artofmanliness.com/2008/01/10/increase-your-manly-confidence-overnight/
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Re: Something for Men
#1: October 04, 2013, 06:30:48 AM
Hey Init,

The confidence and Ego really does take a kicking in the aftermath of an affair/Divorce etc, so us guys really do need some tips to pick ourselves up.

My nieces started me off on changing my image  and wardrobe as I have let it become tired, scruffy and out of date. One bought me a new shirt and said “let this be the start of Lanzo’s new day wear collection, now go and smarten yourself”. Now I spent  a lot of time looking through on sale items at place like Asda/Walmart and similar such stores, it doesn’t cost too much to change you image.

I’m also back with the fresh shower gel and creams nothing too metro sexual but enough to feel fresh and add to looking good.  (The girls keep telling me I’m a good looking guy and will be a catch once all divorce issues are cleared).

Last one for the guys, Ear and nasel hair, its easy to let them get out of control and that can detract from the appearance, I bought a new gadget that has trimmed back the excess.  All basic stuff and are things we need to attend to because we are being thrown back in the market whether we like it or not.

Init,
A very good thread to start I’ll try to post some man making  links & threads.

 Guys on the forum please read and contribute, let us make this our upbeat thread.


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Re: Something for Men
#2: October 04, 2013, 06:41:11 AM
PLEASE DO Lanzo.

This helps us also and it's good if the women read these articles and if something strikes a chord for them (even if it's to opposite of what has been said) everybody can have an opinion without suffering repercussions.

Address the article specifically and what part you may or may not agree with and why.

I agree hygiene and appearance for men and woman is very important. Style helps also.

 I met a guy who may have lost a date because of it. But also because he said "He would be a perfect gentleman if I went out with him; but I could feel free to attack him"  :o :o

Sorry been there done that got the T-shirt. Not interested with a man that lacks confidence.
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

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Re: Something for Men
#3: October 04, 2013, 09:04:48 AM
Oh I forgot to mention back in August I had a date, first in 20 years, lovely meal and chat with a lady off a dating site who happened to live locally to me. I'm not being big headed but she was absolutely  blown away by my charm , manor and dare I say confidence and  I was just being me talking about things I do and have done (I've travelled the world in my job). So I do know that I have the confidence, but it has just been eroded away over the years by W and our sitch.

Back to the date nice time, nice lady and she sent me a few serious texts afterwards appreciating the date and wanting to see me more but I realised I'm not ready for dating let alone a relationship which she was hinting at. I still need time to heal and grow and build myself back up using tips like these.

http://roastedpinebark.hubpages.com/hub/10-Ways-To-Be-A-More-Manly-Man

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Re: Something for Men
#4: October 04, 2013, 10:18:44 AM
Listen, listen, listen to what a girl has to say and respect her, you can't go wrong with that.

Do NOT forget to ask and show interest in what SHE likes does and is about also. It's not all about you.

I know what you mean about needing to heal. And I've found out if I contact them...apparently it's a huge turn off.

I got in touch with someone who I really felt a good connection with the first time this happened. I contacted him again in July to let him know that I had been kicked out once again.

We went to dinner last time. He was respectful etc. Didn't really cry on his shoulder  asked him all kinds of stuff about him. What were his days like etc.

 I thought things were good. Shared a piece of chocolate cake for dessert.

 He's never been married. Three jobs a couple of sisters and an aging mother ( who doesn't live with him) His dad died a couple of years ago.

The woman he was dating ( just sex so he said) didn't go to the funeral been with her about 6 years.

I haven't heard from him so whatever..guess I shouldn't have called him either. Go figure...
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
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Re: Something for Men
#5: October 04, 2013, 10:26:34 AM
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Something for Men
#6: October 04, 2013, 11:01:51 AM
Quote from: in it on October 04, 2013, 10:26:34 AM
http://www.drlaura.com/b/Building-Your-Mans-Confidence/-600469560326881601.html

What do you guys think about this??
Makes me think that being single and independent is far healthier than being married.
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Re: Something for Men
#7: October 04, 2013, 11:05:00 AM
Quote from: in it on October 04, 2013, 10:18:44 AM
Listen, listen, listen to what a girl has to say and respect her, you can't go wrong with that.
Well, you can go wrong doing that if what she says is not worthy of respect.
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Re: Something for Men
#8: October 04, 2013, 11:07:12 AM
Well then SHE has the problem...correct?
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Something for Men
#9: October 04, 2013, 11:18:03 AM
Some women can't recognize it...some have never had it to begin with. So when some one shows them some it can be misinterpreted as LACK of interest.

That's one of my problems I process it as someone not being on the same page I might be in a relationship. Dating, married, divorced, or other wise.

Things have always gone at the speed of light for me and I'm not very patient ( as most of you here know)

Respect for me doesn't mean having someone listen constantly while I talk; I want them to TRUST me and share. Let me have an opinion also. Try to understand and see some of my side of the story. Even if you don't agree at least respect it by not trying to "talk me out of it".

The comment about the single and married thing Honour..

I'm ROTFLMAO!!! It's a well known fact men usually live longer being married than single...wonder why that is?? ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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