[BB64]

Saw this on facebook this morning and thought it migjt be helpful here.
1 if it feels wrong, don't do it

2 say exactly what you mean

3 don't be a people pleaser

4 trust your instincts

5 never speak badly of yourself

6 never give up on your dreams

7 don't be afraid to say no

8 don't be afraid to say yes

9 be kind to you

10 stay away from drama and negativity

11 let go of what you can't control

12 LOVE


I can finally tick off all 12. Yay!

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http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hide-and-seek/201205/building-confidence-and-self-esteem

((((HUGS))))

[Sha10613]

This is a great resource, in it! Thank you for sharing
HUGS

[calamity]

Worth copying.  There's a list of 17 practical things to do [except for the brisk walk daily & more vigorous ex. 3X per week--that's just crazy! ]

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Thanks Calamity and Sha10613

http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/the-art-of-building-self-esteem/

This one has some other things to read on the right side of the page.

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http://www.wingsforkids.org/wings/what-we-do/download-our-free-diy-sel-kits?gclid=CKmfmcuM07wCFcdQOgoduVUANQ

This is something for the kids- I'm not sure what ages or how good it is.

WE are the example for our kids no matter what age they are.

If you have regard for yourself? Chances are they will have it for themselves also.

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Got this online:

The faces and symptoms of low self esteem can be different depending on who you are. Can you recognize yourself in any of these low self esteem signs?

People with low self esteem

• Constantly doubt themselves and do not trust their judgment

• Operate out of a fear of rejection and look for approval from friends, family and co-workers.

• Are typically unassertive in their behavior with others.

• Blame themselves, often think everything is their fault.

• Seek the approval of others to be happy

• Are anxious about the future and are often depressed

• Have a tendency not to act. They become stuck and immobilized because they are afraid of failure.

• Sometimes over compensate and become over-achievers.

• Can be perfectionists. Constantly seeking to improve themselves and their environment. They are never satisfied.

• Are constantly plagued with negative self talk and self doubt. They are unable to affirm themselves positively. .

• Are unable to make an honest assessment of their strengths, qualities, and good points; they find it difficult to accept compliments or recognition from others.

• Are insecure, anxious, and nervous when they are with others.

• Are easily overcome with despair and depression when they experience a setback or loss in their lives.

• Have a tendency to overreact and become de-energized by resentment, anger, and the desire for revenge against those whom they believe have not fully accepted them.

• Fulfill roles in their family that are counter-productive and co-dependent.

• Are vulnerable to mental health problems. They often use addictive behavior to medicate their emotional pain. Such addictive behavior can include alcohol, drugs, food, gambling, sex, shopping, smoking, working too much, or the endless search for truth.

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http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/02/14/4-daily-steps-for-building-a-healthier-relationship-with-yourself/

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http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/think-confident-be-confident/201001/six-ways-boost-your-self-esteem

((((HUGS))))

[Courageous wife]

People with low self esteem

• Constantly doubt themselves and do not trust their judgment

• Operate out of a fear of rejection and look for approval from friends, family and co-workers.

• Are typically unassertive in their behavior with others.

• Blame themselves, often think everything is their fault.

• Seek the approval of others to be happy

• Are anxious about the future and are often depressed

• Have a tendency not to act. They become stuck and immobilized because they are afraid of failure.

• Sometimes over compensate and become over-achievers.

• Can be perfectionists. Constantly seeking to improve themselves and their environment. They are never satisfied.

• Are constantly plagued with negative self talk and self doubt. They are unable to affirm themselves positively. .

• Are unable to make an honest assessment of their strengths, qualities, and good points; they find it difficult to accept compliments or recognition from others.

• Are insecure, anxious, and nervous when they are with others.

• Are easily overcome with despair and depression when they experience a setback or loss in their lives.

• Have a tendency to overreact and become de-energized by resentment, anger, and the desire for revenge against those whom they believe have not fully accepted them.

• Fulfill roles in their family that are counter-productive and co-dependent.

• Are vulnerable to mental health problems. They often use addictive behavior to medicate their emotional pain. Such addictive behavior can include alcohol, drugs, food, gambling, sex, shopping, smoking, working too much, or the endless search for truth.

A lot of these relate to the things I have been reading on co-dependency.  Thank you for posting!