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MLC Monster Re: Advice from the Old Timers
#20: February 24, 2014, 04:23:46 PM
Another note I would like to mention if I may concerns the coldness of the MLCer.

Many of us go through a period in which the MLCer gets closer to us at one time or another.  Perhaps we have a nice weekend, a pleasant interaction, a normal moment.  Then we are hurt, devastated, and or confused when the MLCer runs or turns cold and nasty the next time we interact. 

In my opinion, it is a normal cycle for many MLCers-The MLCer comes near and warms up to you.  They have a normal type moment with you.  He feels something, perhaps a tug of the heart, a reminder of the past, of love.  That scares him.  In order to remain separated he needs to feel dead and cold inside to justify his decision on why he left.  So he freezes you out again, depersonalizes you. Until the next time he needs your sunshine and he comes near enough to you to thaw him again. 

Please do not invest much into these times.  For sometime they will be fleeting at best.  Please don't let the interactions raise any expectations.  You will likely only be hurt.  That pushes the MLCer farther away as he runs from guilt.  Get out of his way and let him get on with his journey.  It protects you and helps him.  At least that is what I believe.

But you can believe that they still have some sort of feelings for you I believe.  They are not done as they emphatically say or yell.  That belief changes nothing though as each one of these interactions comes with a cost-the retreat, the coldness, the nastiness.  At least for awhile.  See it for what it is and continue on your journey please.  We have been hurt and confused enough. 
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