[nah]

If MLC is real, my H could be the president of the club. 

Everything he does is so classic.  He already traveled for work so when he didn't come home, i didn't raise an eyebrow.  We were happily married for almost 28 years and i trusted him completely.  Funny thing is i hear the girl won't let him out of her sight.

Classic bomb drop-
I pulled in the driveway after doing errands and he ran out of the house and got into the passenger seat.  He gave me a 2 minute conversation and left.  He told me there was someone else, he had sex with her and he wanted a divorce.  I just sat with my mouth gaped open---  "bomb drop" is a perfect term b/c that's what it felt like.

The "ilybnilwy" speech came the next day.  I looked him straight in the eyes and said' "no don't give me this kitty sh!t, tell me how you feel"  He looked right at me and said, "I don't love you".  Wow, it still hurts thinking those words came out of his mouth.  He was so stiff, he looked like a robot. 

[PatienceGalore]

Mine said: "I'm sorry but i just don't love you anymore. People change their minds and simply fall out of love. I feel nothing for you"

[nah]

wow...that is very telling.  He sounds very empty inside if he doesn't feel anything.
 Very sad.

[Dagolark]

Empty on the inside is spot on. A couple of months before BD, my Xbf's younger sister had her first baby, a lovely little girl. Let's just say he was less than thrilled at the idea, and at the hospital he was barely interested in looking at her.

I remember so clearly when we walked out and I asked him: "So, now that she's here, how do you feel? Are you happy?"
And he just kind of pulled a face and said "I guess I haven't realized it yet."

....NOT NORMAL.

Also on the phone, when he called me to announce it was over, I was being friendly, asked him about the new apartment he furnished, he gave me lots of details and then I said, very breezy: "That's good, I'm glad. You must be happy, right?"
And he was just kind of silent and mumbling. Didn't sound like it.

I don't remember much from my depression 6 years ago, but really, the way it seemed impossible to ever feel happy again... man. That was horrible. It all seemed so hopeless.

[riverbirch]

Holy cow, nah

[maomina]

Yes it does because yesterday I heard:
"it simply did not work out between the 2 of us"
"we looked like a good family from the outside only"
"maybe, maybe not" in response to me saying in times of difficulties, you turn to your spouse. Obviously, the "not" means that OW is a better option
"we may simply end up being just friends"
"yeah, sure I miss the kids, but not you"
"our communication was bad from the start" (initially, it was just recently)
and I could add a whole lot more.

Thanks for your reply it made me feel alot better. Today it s father s day here in Malta we sent exh  a card but has not acknowleged it yet. Sil thinks ow threw it away. I think he either did not care or made a show of not caring for ow s sake or he s running away from his feelings. I really believe that exh feels so guilty for what he s done that he cannot face us. After he says these words the next time we see him he acts as if nothing happened and tries to small talk. He stresses out how much he loves the kids and not me . The more they stress the more it s not real.

[sobeit]

My H tries to justify, he makes statements that include me.
We are bad for each other.
You deserve a man who will love you. ( followed by, I can't believe I just said that)
Why don't you start dating.
You never loved me enough. ( now denies ever saying that)
When I'm with OW I don't look at other women ( followed by she shouldn't trust me, I'm here with you right now.

So hurtful if I believed him.

[toomanytearss]

My h said these things in front of our d15 the day he left:

I want a divorce
I'm done
ILYBNILWY
You are only the mother of my children
I feel cold inside
It's my parents fault
It's all my fault
There is no spark
I don't find you attractive

Last week he was again saying it's him, it's his fault.
This week we are back to it's all my fault.  LOL  He actually said he was perfect.  LOL 

[Dagolark]

I'm done
ILYBNILWY
I feel cold inside
It's all my fault
There is no spark
I don't find you attractive

Last week he was again saying it's him, it's his fault.
This week we are back to it's all my fault.  LOL  He actually said he was perfect.  LOL

Ding ding ding! Mine said the same things. I was stunned - I don't mean to brag but I know I'm damn hot. My male acquaintances when they hear about the not attractive comment wonder if he hit his head and went crazy... that's why my mind keeps fabricating these bombshell OWs to annihilate what's left of my self esteem, lol.

We only spoke 3 times since bomb drop (cowardly @$$hole that he is) but he already managed to waffle between it's all my fault and it's all your fault because
- the novelty wore off
- we have too much in common, it's like talking to a mirror
- we have nothing in common, we're incompatible
- we never argue
- we argue about dinner (he wants to eat at 11pm and I get hungry at a normal hour)
- you didn't have dinner ready when I got out of the shower
- three years ago you told me you don't like going out drinking

I don't know if these qualify as script. ..

[bipolared]

Definitely script, Dagolark.  I had to laugh b/c i got the one about going out drinking too.  Well actually, I got most of the others too but that one was really irritating.  I sat at home all the time not b/c I wanted to but b/c "we couldn't afford it"  and he didn't want me to leave the girls at home alone late at night.  But then he left b/c I am such a homebody.