So I have been talking to my 15 yr-old step-daughter in secret (late night phone calls from her room) as her mom doesn't want her to have unsupervised contact with me. They have moved in with OM who is newly separated from his W. And talk about fast!! BD was less than a month ago and since they moved in, they've changed the carpets and are painting every room as my W says she doesn't want the place to remind her of when it belonged to her friend, OM's W.
My daughter says it's disgusting being around them. They act worse than teenagers. She says OM is like a puppy attached at her hip around the house and every where they go. When she wants to spend time with just her mom and makes that request, he still tends to show up or is always there when she is talking to him. It really makes her angry and she's confronted both of them about it, but they just seem to ignore her pleas. And she said that the first night they were there, the OM made a comment about how this was the start of their "forever". It made her sick. And she says everybody around her thinks it's weird such as friends and riding partners. She's embarrassed and doesn't want friends over. She's tried and they are all in awe of what is going on. She called me crying one night because her mom and her had been fighting every night about how she favors OM over her. She went so far as to call her mom a $l*t, as that is what her friends I'm sure are saying.
She also is tired of her mom lying to her. Before they left our house for his place, she said her mom wasn't sure if it was a good idea and maybe she shouldn't be pursuing this relationship right now. My daughter agreed quite vehemently, but to no avail. She just wanted to smack her upside the head with a pan and keeps repeating how she wants her mother to pull her head out of her ass. Or out of his ass......lol. And she keeps saying how her mom has lied to her all along about things like they were going to stay in his basement and him upstairs. Wrong! And how they weren't together and just friends for the longest time even though they tended to sleep in the same bed. Wrong!
She's a smart girl and she knows this is going WAY to fast, considering we figure it's been only about 6-8 weeks that this affair could have been going on. I told her about some of the things I've read on this site, and that this will more than likely fall apart, and could be sooner than later. The brighter it burns at the start, the faster it will burn itself out is my thinking.
I just let her rant as I don't want to put thoughts in her head, but even she said that OM is a predator. He has cheated before on his previous wife. And my daughter says that when we were fighting, he was right there to soothe W, and when I took some time away from home, he was right there the next day. W couldn't escape OM as that might have allowed her time to think and he might lose his opportunity. These are all words straight from my 15 yr old daughters mouth! She realized we were having problems and told her mother that all we needed was a break to think things through.
I offered her to stay with me but she says her mom gets mad and she doesn't want to fight anymore. She also states she would miss her mom too much, even though she's not the same women. She states she hates him, hates his kids who seem to get more attention from her mother than she does, and hates the place she lives in. She thinks OM is quite a step down in intelligence and has no backbone. And she's wondering where her mother's went. She says it seems every waking moment is with OM or texting OM when he's not there, and going for lunch everyday with OM if he's at work. She wishes her mom could step away on her own and think. But mom's alone time means OM!!
She misses home (where I am which I am currently debating my previous decision to sell), our dogs that live with me, and her friends in the area.
The more we talk, the more I can't believe things. Who is this woman? If I followed her around like a puppy, damn straight she would be saying lay off. If I did any of the stuff my daughter described, even 5 years ago, it would have pushed her away. But now it's the cutest thing and she sticks up for it when my daughter confronts her?! I miss my old wife dearly, but who is this?! I would love to feel like a teenager in love with her again but this is way too far! I don't think I'd want her back in this state!
And the fact that she no longer puts our daughter first is a big blow. Our daughter has always come first in our relationship. And she says it was never like this when we were together, even in the beginning. It's way worse.
I don't know what to think!! Is this MLC or is this an illness or chemical imbalance?! This is, indeed, one of the most shocking transformations I have ever seen in my life. I only wish I knew about these things prior to it happening to me. This site and others like it have really opened my eyes to something I didn't even know existed. But should have, as I may have been able to deal with it early on and maybe avoid what's happening right now. I feel like I have to warn everybody I speak to about relationships about it if they haven't reached the age yet where it could just happen.
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