[twiceburnt]

Well, if it makes anybody feel better, I have a recent karma story for you.  When I was on PathPartners a few years ago, there was a woman who used to post and help us out.  Her brother's W was going through an MLC.  He didn't post, but she did. 

Anyways, she emailed me recently.  Her brother's W divorced him and married OM a few years ago.  Her brother is doing fine now and has moved on.  Meanwhile, his ex-W just kicked OM out of the house because OM started having an affair on her.     She thinks her brother's ex-W will probably forgive OM and let him return though.  But I wonder how long that will last.  Another affair will happen again, or he'll continue on with this one behind her back I'm sure.

So yeah, the OM/OW aren't the "catch" our MLCers make them out to be.  And it doesn't sound like the MLCer's new life is all that wonderful.

[Searching4Answers]

That said, the OP only knows what the MLCer tells them, so of course they believe their lover is unhappy in his/her marriage. The MLCer is unhappy and blames the marriage.

I may be naive or in denial, but in my Ws case I don't think she initially thought the marriage was the problem. I know before the A began my W was seriously depressed and she didn't know why. We talked about it and that is what she told me. And based on what I know about the OM, who another member of the board said sounded like "true pond scum affair down", I believe the OM is a predator who realized W was vulnerable and convinced her the marriage was the problem and he was the solution.

I don't believe this is true in all cases but I believe in some cases the MLCer may be going through a difficult midlife transition and there are enough sick people out there that one of them gets ahold of them and turns it into a full blown crisis.

My H has never said that the marriage had problems. He decided one day that he was going to have 2 relationships - one with me and one with OW (this was my BD) and he ultimately wanted to have us both together as one big happy family! Who knows what he told the OW but she was completely aware of me and still pursued (going on 2 years).

Now I am not saying that this kind of lifestyle choice is wrong but it is wrong for me and the fact that H never discussed this with me shows that he knew it was wrong. He viewed me as an extension of himself to do with as he pleased  

[toysaplenty]

I am a friend on the OW's FB page. She is an idiot she does not even know it is me. She does not post much but I check in now and then. She just married my Ex husband last weekend, 8 months after our divorce.  She should be enjoying her new married life to my ex husband who she thinks she "won". Instead, she posts, this saying that is obviously meant for her ex husband. All it told me was that her ex husband is on her mind. I copied it and emailed it to her ex husband, who I am friends with, since the affair began between my husband(now ex) and the OW. Here is what she posted: She moved on and I feel sorry for you because she overlooked your flaws, your temper, your selfishness, your inability to love anyone but yourself. She could have anyone in the world but she still chose you every time. All you are now is a crease in her past, a scar on her chest, a memory that fades faster then the photograph of you under her mattress. Maybe now she will find someone who loves her instead of someone who sucks the life out of her,  never satisfied, even with her beating heart in his greedy hands. What a nutjob! She divorced her husband 7 years ago and yet still lived with him because he loved her and di not want the divorce but she needed money and a place to stay. She was still sleeping with her ex husband while she was having an affair with mine. When she told her ex that she was in love with my husband he begged her to stay. And she writes this saying like HE was the monster? HA! She is nuts and I am confident she is going to tear my husband into bits. Oh, ex husband of mine, you have a storm brewing on the horizon.....

[UnconditionalLove]

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=5632.0



Ok, I couldn't link it from my IPAD but I did get it going. I will link it later if someone else doesn't

My thread got locked before I could move the thread here. LOL!

[toysaplenty]

I am a friend on the OW's FB page. She is an idiot she does not even know it is me. She does not post much but I check in now and then. She just married my Ex husband last weekend, 8 months after our divorce.  She should be enjoying her new married life to my ex husband who she thinks she "won". Instead, she posts, this saying that is obviously meant for her ex husband. All it told me was that her ex husband is on her mind. I copied it and emailed it to her ex husband, who I am friends with, since the affair began between my husband(now ex) and the OW. Here is what she posted: She moved on and I feel sorry for you because she overlooked your flaws, your temper, your selfishness, your inability to love anyone but yourself. She could have anyone in the world but she still chose you every time. All you are now is a crease in her past, a scar on her chest, a memory that fades faster then the photograph of you under her mattress. Maybe now she will find someone who loves her instead of someone who sucks the life out of her,  never satisfied, even with her beating heart in his greedy hands. What a nutjob! She divorced her husband 7 years ago and yet still lived with him because he loved her and di not want the divorce but she needed money and a place to stay. She was still sleeping with her ex husband while she was having an affair with mine. When she told her ex that she was in love with my husband he begged her to stay. And she writes this saying like HE was the monster? HA! She is nuts and I am confident she is going to tear my husband into bits. Oh, ex husband of mine, you have a storm brewing on the horizon.....
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[UnconditionalLove]

Chaos pure chaos going on there.

[UnconditionalLove]

Thanks for posting that again here!

I wrote on the other thread

Chaos pure Chaos here!

[UnconditionalLove]

Sorry everyone, this discussion when moved got messed up. Not sure how that happen but now I can't seem to fix my own discussion and it's seems to have moved from the discussion area. I think I've been hijacked. LOL

[Songanddance]

Just to clarify.
 I split the original topic at post 160 and created a new thread at the same time that UL started her new thread. We both named it OM/OW 2 or rather II and they both ended up going onto the community list at the same.

I then merged UL's second thread with the split one so the new thread no II starts from the previous topic post. 

This has now gone back to a story thread.

I have now locked and linked the previous thread to this one.

[UnconditionalLove]

Songandance,
This isn't a story thread. It was a discussion. It's not my story. Also, the original thread topic isn't in the thread so I will try and look for that. It would have been nice to start this discussion thread out with the original thread. OK, I moved it back to discussion. If you don't want it there let me know and I will move it back but it was never my story.

Well, I guess I can't move it ito discussion. LOL! This is so messed up! Too funny so sad!