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#60: November 14, 2014, 07:41:34 AM
Just for the record because I'm not proud of it, I told W I would stay if I could remain friends and stay in contact with OW.
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Re: LBS STAGES 2
#61: November 14, 2014, 07:52:24 AM
MeNow, mine said the same thing to me too.

he also said to me one time when he was trying to come home that he thought i didn't love him anymore which is why he went looking for someone else and now he knew it wasn't true it was tearing him up.

why would i stay with someone if i didn't love them, i am not that desperate for companionship.
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Re: LBS STAGES 2
#62: November 14, 2014, 08:00:18 AM
I would say as an excuse.
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Re: LBS STAGES 2
#63: November 14, 2014, 08:03:00 AM
Quote from: blackice on November 14, 2014, 07:52:24 AM
MeNow, mine said the same thing to me too.

he also said to me one time when he was trying to come home that he thought i didn't love him anymore which is why he went looking for someone else and now he knew it wasn't true it was tearing him up.

why would i stay with someone if i didn't love them, i am not that desperate for companionship.

Same. It's all about them justifying to themselves.
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That's was some f*cked up sh!t! I don't ever have to do that again!

Why are you holding on to that? How is it serving you?

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Re: LBS STAGES 2
#64: November 14, 2014, 09:05:12 AM
MeNow,

REALLY??  LOL
I'm sure it made perfect sense at the time, huh?   ;D
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Re: LBS STAGES 2
#65: November 14, 2014, 09:26:10 AM
Quote from: Thunder on November 14, 2014, 09:05:12 AM
MeNow,

REALLY??  LOL
I'm sure it made perfect sense at the time, huh?   ;D

hehehehe... lmaoohiluxembourg! 

Perfect sense, I am sure!  Hugs Stayed...
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Re: LBS STAGES 2
#66: November 14, 2014, 09:55:20 AM
Mine also suggested that we get together with OW and all be friends and please each other.  If he brings that up again, I am going to tell him to go ahead and ask her what she thinks.  Then laugh at the big knot on his head where she has thrown something really heavy at him.
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Re: LBS STAGES 2
#67: November 14, 2014, 10:31:36 AM
Just to say that we have snuck rather craftily back onto what our MLCers say and not us.......

There are so many other threads that we can discuss the MLCer - let's try and keep this one special just for us!!
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Re: LBS STAGES 2
#68: November 15, 2014, 03:42:50 AM
OOps, you are right S&D.  Sorry!

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Re: LBS STAGES 2
#69: November 15, 2014, 04:08:58 AM
Anger has set in. I am absolutely disgusted with H. Apathy is following, I have moments where I am to exhausted, disgusted and resigned to care about him. For me this is a good place. Each day is better than the last. I focus on myself and my kids.
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