[Thunder]

I don't know stayed, I think the one about not finding someone with a bigger Pen!$ kinda beats that.   

[crazyjourney]

Well perhaps with the exception of the dog being too fat lol, I reaaly think most of it is projection of all the stuff from their childhood or at least a good portion of it.

I believe the drama is what they grew up with and a lot of their complaints are the things they have had said to them when growing up in their family homes.

I was accused off not keeping my shoulders back!! putting my elbows on the table!! not keeping the house tidy, that was a big one guess what his mom was ocd over a tidy house, although I obviously wasnt around when he was growing up I can pretty much see how it was and putting it together has made so much sense.

If you want to know where the projections come from look to his foo, mine even told his mom ow is just like her, they try to recreate their childhood in order to put it right, they need to go back and re live it and they cant do that with us.

I never realised what his foo is like until I myself started to open my eyes, I can see it clearly now.

The majority of the mlcer complaints are what they feel about themselves, the things their parents went on at them for when they were growing up and then come the things they feel about themselves for what they have done.

Mrsmedfly a lot of the things your h said to you, could his parents not of said them to him when he was young??

Food for thought.

x

[Slow Fade]

The majority of the mlcer complaints are what they feel about themselves, the things their parents went on at them for when they were growing up and then come the things they feel about themselves for what they have done.

Come to think of it, my MLCr's Mom is waaaayyyy focused on weight and not being fat and always told H he needed to lose weight.......perhaps he was projecting when he said that about our dog? Interesting..........

[OffRoad]

Almost all of it is projection, with a tiny piece of a truth dart thrown in just enough to make us question ourselves. Or possibly that little truth is true for both MLCer and LBS.

I know the thing that bothers my H the most is how much money is being spent on D19 for college. He didn't want to hear about it before the fact. He NEEDED D to go to some fancy college because he always felt like he couldn't make it into any "good" college. The newest line from my MLCer? He is upset because I said I didn't want S16 to go to college. On what planet did I ever say that? I simply told S that he could start at a community college first, then move to a 4 year college as an alternative to starting at a 4 year college. How did that become "I don't want you to go to college, S"?

I think their brains are like those mixed up sentences that you have to put the words in the right order, and they don't have the correct answer for the proper order.

[Blindsided13]

Same universe where "s is grounded but you can come in and visit." Means you can't see so . Amazing what they hear!

[Medusa]

Okay, time for me to play.

Thunder mentioned my personal favorite (although SF's dog is my favorite non-Medusa one).

Here's the entire story.

Him: maybe we should have an open marriage.

Me: umm, there are two problems with that. First, since I already know about OW, technically we do have an open marriage. Second, there are rules to this kind of arrangement. The cardinal rule is that you cannot get emotionally involved with someone.

(Silence and the MLC stare)

Him: well, maybe is just need to f*ck other people for awhile.

Me: otherr people or other person?

(More silence and more MLC stare).

Him: I thought it would just be a fling.

Me: this matters why since it's been going on for months?

(Still more silence and more MLC stare)

Him: I think you should sleep with other men, as long as his Pen!$ is smaller than me.

(Medusa stands with her jaw hanging thinking, did he really just say that?)

On another occasion when we were discussing why he refused to spend time with me:

Him: I can't do it. I don't want to feel like a two-timer.

Me: (hysterical laughter that I'm sure the entire neighborhood heard)

Him: please don't laugh at me.

Me: (trying not to laugh) okay, but you do understand how stupid that sounds, right?

Him: yes

Later in the same conversation

Him: I really wish we could all move to Utah.

Me: Nope. Won't work. The first wife doesn't like the one you consider the second wife.

Him: (a look of profound disappointment)

Other classics from my clown include the comment that my multiple orgasms were a distraction, that I'd lost so much weight I was boney, and that he no longer found me sexually attractive because I look like my dad (it only took 30 years for him to notice).

I also got "I love you hit its not enough" (whatever that means) and "I don't believe we are programmed to love only one person in our life".

[ArmySpouse]

  medusa.....

   

[lawprofessor]

I will offer an oldie but a goodie:

Ex:  I know why we can't be together. 

Me: oh?

Ex: You MADE me watch Everybody Loves Raymond once.

Me:  What?

Ex:  Stop being stupid.  It was a seminal point in our relationship.  Remember?  About ten years ago you MADE me watch the last 10 minutes of ELR.   It was on right before the movie we had been waiting all week to see.

Me:  Have you been hit on the head recently?

Then there was:

Ex:  I always thought you were the good looking one in our relationship.

Me:  I always thought you were quite handsome.

Ex:   See that's why we can't be together.  You're always wrong about everything.  I can't be with someone as stupid as you!!!! 

Me:  I see.  I'm wrong.  I don't think you are handsome. 

Ex:  OH SO NOW ITS PROVEN !!!  YOU LIED TO ME ABOUT THAT ALL THESE YEARS.  I DONT EVEN KNOW WHO YOU ARE !!!

ME :  I have to go now.  I'm late for a meeting. 

Ex:  Is it your MENSA meeting tonight?

Me: Yes

How about:

315 am my phone rings.

Me:   Hello?

Ex:   I finally figured out why we can't be together.

Me:  oh goodie I can't wait to hear the 14 th reason why we can't be together.

Ex:   No no this time I've got it.  Really.  I promise.

Me:   ok.  Well?

Ex:   I forgot what I was going to say.

Me:   Well in that case, I'll just go back to bed and wait for it to be posted on Facebook tomorrow.

Ex:   No no i'll remember it was really THE reason.

Me:   Yes?

Ex:   your birthday is in the wrong month!

Me:   Take that up with my parents

Ex:   F#CK YOU B!TCH !!!

Me:   No thanks.

10 minutes later-

Me:  Hello?

Ex:   I unfriended you on Facebook.  So there.

Me:   Ok

Ex:   See we can't be together because we aren't even Facebook friends.

Me:  Yeah, stick with that one when you file.  The judge will love that one.

Ex:   File what? 

Me:   Divorce papers

Ex:   We are getting divorced?   Who said that?

Me:   If we can't be together we must be getting divorced.

Ex:   Why?

Me:   Because you're having sex with your 20 year old girlfriend.

Ex:   Crickets.....She is my friend.  She has nothing to do with us.  You have no proof.

Me:  I have to go now.  Good bye.

Ex:   Who is in MY bed with you? !!!  I'll kill him!

Voice in the background...Why are you yelling Dr R ?  Who are you talking to?

Ex:   My F#CKING WIFE !!

Me:   I guess I have proof.

Ex:   I HATE YOU BOTH !!!!!

I bet she had a wonderful night after that.

[in it]

  times one hundred
I'm sorry there are some classics here
The Pen!$ size one kills me!!!

[Thunder]

LP.

It must have been like talking to someone about 16 years old.  Honestly, that is no where near adult thoughts.  wow..

When my H took his wedding ring off it was because I said I might fight for the dogs after a heated argument.  He finally had his "reason" to take it off.     I knew better, he just wanted to look single for all the ladies out there.