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#20: December 29, 2014, 09:34:23 PM
WOW, thanks for sharing! H is alot like your H. This thread is giving me something to think about.
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Re: How do we make our MLCers believe the marriage is truly over
#21: December 29, 2014, 09:37:55 PM
Yep wish I went NC right after I signed the divorce papers.silly me..he just about drove me nuts!
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Re: How do we make our MLCers believe the marriage is truly over
#22: December 29, 2014, 09:41:14 PM
You're welcome, UL.

I don't mind have had some contact in the earlier months. It provided me with what I know now is valuable knowledge into MLC mind and MLC ways. And the nuts communications also help me recognise the same pattern when others post their stories and be able to assist them.

But cut contact a bit, a little earlier would had been good for me. Still, I learned a lot about a MLCer crazy ways, changes of mind, sometimes within minutes, etc.
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Re: How do we make our MLCers believe the marriage is truly over
#23: December 30, 2014, 09:11:11 PM
Quote from: MeNow on December 28, 2014, 03:36:03 AM
To answer the question, who knows? For me, if it comes down to meeting someone new, standing will be over and will no longer matter.

Quote from: Anjae on December 29, 2014, 05:28:45 PM
Maybe divorce the MLCer and carry on with our lives?

^^^ Best answers for the topic question! They will know you are done when YOU are actually done! This would be when you have finally had enough and divorce them, move on, and no longer care about their life!

Yes, this may cause a knee jerk reaction in some, but as someone already said, why would you want someone that sees you as a prize or potential Plan B?

Others will go full force at finding / securing the relationship with the OP. These figure that you are done and not taking them back so they may as well make it work because they have no other option!

But, as we all know.....the success rate of those relationships succeeding is about 3%!


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