[MIMIx]

In It,

i think you are right.  Press the ignore button..."sorry, too busy with the important things in my life...like my mom and the kids".

He is frustrated because he's been roaming around lost for two years. Of course, he says he doesn't have a place to live because we have not settled our stuff.  It's an excuse. 

He is going on ignore...BECAUSE THE FRIGGIN WORLD DOESNT REVOLVE AROUND HIM.  LOL

[in it]

There you go..it's HIS problem. You have enough of your own ((HUGS AND PRAYERS!!)))

 

Go NC and step away from the crazy.

[MIMIx]

Thanks, in it.  Much appreciated.

[Blackhen]

Hi MIMIx

After BD before I found this site and learned about MLC I was like "Right, let's divide up the spoils RIGHT NOW!!!"

But he dragged the chain like you wouldn't believe. He never even came and got his clothes. He did have a lot of his personal possessions elsewhere, but he never lifted a finger to come and get the rest. I dumped everything at his mother's house over a 3 month period.

Since last August he's been saying "we need to sort out the business and decide what we do with it. Let's have a meeting." Everytime we have set a date for this "meeting" he either breaks it or just wants to have dinner and talk about anything BUT our shared business and assets!

The truth is he doesn't want to finalise anything. Good confirmation that he hasn't actually left the R, but is indeed in MLC.

There are many examples of this on the threads, and your H will probably follow script.

I agree - just ignore him for now and see what happens. Be ready to jump, but not yet.

 

[Hmmm]

My H left 18 months ago and I still have everything of his except some clothes and one of his guitars. His Mustang is still on the drive.

He hasn't told the kids he's left them either (as he lives away and works abroad)

This ain't no normal break up!

[Blackhen]

This ain't no normal break up!

You're darn tootin', Hmmm!!!

[MeNow]

Stop tootin' Hmmm!

[in it]

Well almost two years later the ex still has all of my things. And unless I return with the troopers that's where they'll stay.

Far be it from me to want to create any drama.

In my case he wanted me gone. Most of my things were already packed in boxes due to the house being on the market.

He had the opportunity to load it all up and bring it to me. What's up with that? Too friggin lazy to get out of his own way I guess.

If I'd been him I would have put them outside told me to come get them and be dong a happy dance.

[MIMIx]

I don't know why this stuff gets me so upset.  He's done this before.  And he hasn't taken one bit of anything with him or pursued any talks... I have to remind myself that he is not usually a man of action. 

The hard thing is the mixed message that he delivers.  One day he is in, the next he is out.  It makes my head spin.  This is the best reason for focusing on yourself and your own happiness.  Your life can literally be sucked right out of you if you let it.

I also don't know why splitting our stuff gets me in such a tizzy.  It doesn't seem to bother others like it bothers me.  Its probably fear driven.  I don't want to give up my life comforts.

Thank you to all above for your support.  I hope that i can pay it forward.

[in it]

That's why it may be time for YOU to make the decision and take control of your own life, happiness, and situation.

If you try to wait around for them to make a decison it will suck the life out of you. The goal for them is to keep you engaged and in a tailspin.

I wasn't going to play games and have him bring a box here or there to get my things back. I had to consider a domestic violence incident. He would have dragged that out for as long as possible.

So I slammed the door on getting anymore of my things back if it ALL couldn't be delivered in a timely manner.