[MyBrainIsBroken]

Keeping a foot in the door?  Making sure we don't forget they exist?  Random coincidence?  Time will tell.

My son-in-law has been dead for 7 years, last week I received a copy of ESPN in his name. Keeping a foot in the door? 

[Braveheart]

Keeping a foot in the door?  Making sure we don't forget they exist?  Random coincidence?  Time will tell.

My son-in-law has been dead for 7 years, last week I received a copy of ESPN in his name. Keeping a foot in the door? 

I still get mail for mine and she's been gone almost four years now. I think it's just a case of they just don't care enough to send in a change of address.

[MeNow]

What I want to know is who still subscribes to magazines? And with MBIB's revelation, it's getting creepy as well.

[Mad Hatter]

retaliate -- subscribe her to GQ.

I like this idea, but I would go with something more extreme. Maybe some penthouse or swank; maybe some strong anti-political rag and get her on a watch list!

Seriously though, if it bugs you just go to the post office and get a change of address for her And stop it from coming to your place!

[Rookie13]

Yep 'retaliate' had me laughing! 

Mac..I'd go NC with your mailman.....

[stayed]

Some of these "deliveries/subscriptions" have been started up recently.  There is no reason for these mags to be coming to your homes, at all.  To me, that indicates that your partner 1) forgot and sent it to his old address, or 2)  he/she deliberately had it sent there! 

I agree coincidence, deliberate??

As for the other mail, bank stuff etc.  not sure what happens there, but I have received mail from tenants who lived in my home years and years ago.. and they just keep on coming.  I've returned them to "sender", you name it.  Next month, there they are again.

I can only assume that many businesses do not update the information on their clients.

Hugs Stayed

[crazyjourney]

Exactly, safer to stay on my own, thats what I said.

If you look closely you probably go for the same type as your ex/spouses too, or you did at least before you had your own awakening if you have come that far, if you havent your in for trouble if you meet someone else.

So the minute I dont fancy a daisy picking Mel Gibson I know I am on the right track then, have to work on that.

Food for thought eh!

x

[honour]

Maybe if our husbands could open up like all of you,we might get somewhere.

No, at home we'd all be sleeping on the couch if we did . If a man brought up most of what we've mentioned here in public or at work he probably loose his job or at the very least be hauled up to HR for a reaming...

But we are ok here, Braveheart, because we have the purple seal of approval.

Look around this forum and you see both men and women mutually supportive of each other in the plight of the LBS, yet it is deemed necessary to have this thread come with a patronising, if not sexist, purple warning. Seriously? What is the thought process going on here? "uh oh, it's a thread for men by men, I better just tell them that I, a female, approve it, but before even a word is written I will just warn them against bad and abusive behaviour because you know what men are like…"

"Decent" men are just not very highly valued, they are seen by many as schmucks, gullible, easily manipulated meal tickets or a means of advancement. The opening post in the Man Cave 5 is an unconscious suggestion that the men here lack masculinity.

It is the bad asses who are valued. You don't believe me? Look around this forum and it is chocked full of women who are aching to be in a relationship with someone who has lied and cheated on them. Yet, men who have been loyal, loving and strive to live by principles and who have themselves suffered abuse are "permitted" approved threads that carry large purple warnings against abusive behaviour.

How often do we hear the phrase, "there are no good men left." Maybe there are good men left but perhaps they are just not highly valued.

Ironically, the first person to roll into the Man Cave drunk and "weighing in" was a female.

OK I've been out... I'm drunk...

Most of you think you are in love with you wives   (or ex wives)

Controlling isn't caring...just sayin'

And MONEY and sex isn't what it's all about..Have you figured that out yet?


 Knock yourselves out. ..vent all you want...In It has weighed in.

[LaughLoveLive]

Id like to believe I value good men, honour, men with values and who live life with honour and dignity and integrity.  I see lots of good men here on this forum.  Frustrated and hurt men, sure, but good men who I'd love to meet in real life and who give me hope that not all men turn out like my H - a man I once thought was a man of integrity and honour but has shown himself to be not like that at all. The husband I knew IS someone I would like to be with....that guy over there,living with his secretary, who abandoned and betrayed me and my children? ... no, I don't want him.

I don't value "bad asses", I never have, but for a long time I tried to have faith in my H and to stay committed to those vows I made on our wedding day almost 25 years ago (next month...) when I promised to stick by him "for better or worse". Maybe this is the "worse" and what kind of wife would I be if I just walked away when things got a bit tough?? And what kind of person would I be if I didn't give someone a second chance? Or wasn't able to forgive someone especially if they showed genuine remorse?

I'm sorry you felt patronised - I for one appreciated the warning that the tone of this particular thread may be different to one dominated by women. Not bad or or abusive, just a different perspective. Men and women aren't the same. I Hope I havent irritated you more. I'm trying to be supportive, I hope it came across that way. I'm almost not game to hit "post" but here goes...

[Thundarr]

Maybe if our husbands could open up like all of you,we might get somewhere.

No, at home we'd all be sleeping on the couch if we did . If a man brought up most of what we've mentioned here in public or at work he probably loose his job or at the very least be hauled up to HR for a reaming...

But we are ok here, Braveheart, because we have the purple seal of approval.

Look around this forum and you see both men and women mutually supportive of each other in the plight of the LBS, yet it is deemed necessary to have this thread come with a patronising, if not sexist, purple warning. Seriously? What is the thought process going on here? "uh oh, it's a thread for men by men, I better just tell them that I, a female, approve it, but before even a word is written I will just warn them against bad and abusive behaviour because you know what men are like…"

"Decent" men are just not very highly valued, they are seen by many as schmucks, gullible, easily manipulated meal tickets or a means of advancement. The opening post in the Man Cave 5 is an unconscious suggestion that the men here lack masculinity.

It is the bad asses who are valued. You don't believe me? Look around this forum and it is chocked full of women who are aching to be in a relationship with someone who has lied and cheated on them. Yet, men who have been loyal, loving and strive to live by principles and who have themselves suffered abuse are "permitted" approved threads that carry large purple warnings against abusive behaviour.

How often do we hear the phrase, "there are no good men left." Maybe there are good men left but perhaps they are just not highly valued.

Ironically, the first person to roll into the Man Cave drunk and "weighing in" was a female.

OK I've been out... I'm drunk...

Most of you think you are in love with you wives   (or ex wives)

Controlling isn't caring...just sayin'

And MONEY and sex isn't what it's all about..Have you figured that out yet?


 Knock yourselves out. ..vent all you want...In It has weighed in.

This.  I've said it all along.  We are basically "friend-zoned" even here.  I miss the old LifeTwo thread where we used to open up the way men truly do when they're together.  All too often we end up being defined by women rather than men or ourselves.  It happened in our marriages and in many ways happens even now.  Perhaps we all unwittingly slide into our old roles and become surrogate W's and H's to each other here.  Maybe that's why I've been itching to buy a 4x4 truck lately.....