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Simply lovely! :)

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you, too WGH!!  :)

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Love it ...right back at yeah  :)
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H has been home almost 4 years and our relationship is now better than before MLC :)

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Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
#62: December 22, 2011, 12:45:17 PM
HB--take care of yourself! 

All of the LBS here, I wish you many moments of peace during this season.  I remember last Christmas.  I was at church.  The priest said something which spoke to me, and I still remember it.  I'll try to paraphrase it.  "When we are anxious and worry, it shows our lack of trust (in God) and faith."  Whether you believe in God or not, this was/is so important for the LBS--Just let go! 

Something HB said reminded me also of something a dear friend told me in the first days following BD.  She had lost her H the prior year so knew a thing or two about loss.  I was depressed and confused.  She said to me, "There is joy in the journey."  It's one of the lessons I've kept with me. 

I hope each of you finds the joy in the journey and the peace within.  My love and prayers are with all of you here daily.  Merry Christmas!
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Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
#63: December 22, 2011, 04:03:16 PM
Fo all, who share, upon this site
to seek help or to guide
I thank you with the words you write
as I know you're by my side


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Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
#64: December 23, 2011, 03:52:18 AM
You too Sil,
Thanks for stopping by my thread so often. It means a lot to me.
Huge hugs for 2012.
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Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
#65: December 23, 2011, 02:32:58 PM
HeartBlessing, Merry Christmas! Not sure if you are familiar with Joyce Meyer but I listen to her every morning on the radio and you come to mind.  :) A wonderful gift you have. To look/work in/on our inner selves solves just about everything. God has blessed you for your faith and thanks for passing it on!
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Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
#66: December 23, 2011, 10:34:34 PM
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HeartBlessing, Merry Christmas! Not sure if you are familiar with Joyce Meyer but I listen to her every morning on the radio and you come to mind.  :) A wonderful gift you have. To look/work in/on our inner selves solves just about everything. God has blessed you for your faith and thanks for passing it on!

Right back at ya, Rookie and all! :)

Yes, I'm very familiar with Joyce Meyer;I've read several of her books, "Battle Field of the Mind" was one very good one. 

 I was surprised at how very similar our upbringings were.   I can see where God has worked His Hand in BOTH our lives to create strong individual women of God to write/speak our testimonies to others. :)

I really do like and deeply respect her;  her books have the awesome power of God within each and every page; not to mention the flow of Anointing that comes from her as I hear her speak what  the Lord places within her heart to say.

He has increased her greatly over the years; and this increase will continue as her life truly does focus completely on the Lord as her sustenance, keeper, one who meets her needs and beyond. :)

You can't testify to what God has done for you, unless you've faced a trial or two or three; or even many trials within your life.

Someone once said that my "raw honesty" was admired...well, if I hadn't faced it, I couldn't relate to it, if that makes sense.

It could and would have been all too easy to toss God aside each time I ran into something I was having trouble accepting/facing; but that hasn't happened for me.   If anything,  He has helped me to develop an attitude of acceptance, and I know I can ask for help at any time; even though I AM also allowed to question, and even complain about what is going on.  :)

One of the nicest aspects about the Lord is that He won't turn you away when you have a problem He will listen, empathize, validate, explain, comfort, and most of all love you dearly, and deeply.  :)

He'll teach you various ways and aspects of what you're facing; if you will simply pay attention to what He's trying to tell you.

We are human, therefore some things must be thought out within ourselves to a greater aspect of learning...yet, He will also be there to confirm, or to help you reach the conclusion He knows you will reach.

I know I can call on Him anytime, and He's there with and for me.  :)

For what it's worth, I've been a sick cookie all day; and am still sick...someone gave me some wrong directions to my delivery;  told me to turn in front of a Marathon Station; it was still dark when I attempted to get out to my delivery point.

Well, the road there, wasn't the right one to turn on in the first place; and I nearly ran into a literal wall of mud where the road wasn't finished. I didn't see this until I got halfway into the turn; and my headlights picked up the solid wall not 15 feet in front of me.

This particular road was "hidden" by the trees, and actually LOOKED right to turn into; there were no "road closed" type signs, nothing.  When I saw this was wrong, I stopped dead, and I was jacknifed into a "L" shape; half in and half out of the main road.

I said a quick prayer to the Lord, and began to back very slowly back out of the "L" I was in; and prayed that I wouldn't jacknife any further, and take a chance of falling off into a ditch, or turning the whole rig over.

I handled it just like I've handled a number of other things in my career, then went forward to the next road, and it was the correct one...and so, I handled my delivery; but my stomach erupted like a volcano into the worse case of Acid Reflux I've ever had; and NOTHING worked to calm it down...I tried everything.

I'm still queasy; and totally messed up at the moment.   I am determined that I will make it home whether in the wee hours of tomorrow, or later...for now, however, I'm still experiencing eruptions, and Bandit was worried, as usual....he'd been guarding me most of the day; and is now asleep on a pillow.  :)

Bless his little wee self; he's no bigger than a minute; doesn't weigh 3 lbs, and I'm very attached to the little fellow.  :)
 
One more thing; it also didn't help to find out my sister's husband had an episode where he nearly passed out; and they suspect that he's passed a blood clot through his lungs...he's 69 years old...and I think alot of him; had adopted him as my brother when my sister married him.
He's a good fellow; and he's really good to my sister in so many ways.  He has his issues, too, but he's a very nice man.  :)

It came to me that I'm going to have to figure out how to manage my stress much differently than before...what happened this morning; would NOT have bothered me a year or so ago; but now, it seems each time I go under stress of any kind, now, it brings my stomach forth and sets it on fire.
I'm surprised I don't belch flames like a Dragon, LOL!!

I'm transparent about what I deal with; NOT to have people "pity" me, "get onto me", or whatever; it's not like that at all with me.   But it's to get people to understand, I face various things and aspects, also....no one has a total corner on the market when it comes to trouble, trials, or one's physical health.

And just because I've passed out of one trial, does NOT mean my own trials are at an end; oh, no, I have many MORE to face long before I pass out of this world.

We ALL have our own individual crosses to bear; at one time, I had all emotional trials to deal with; now it's beginning to be physical trials; and I'm not sure what's worse, but that doesn't matter.

The point being there is ALWAYS something to face, and overcome; regardless of where you walk within this life; or even how you walk through this life.

NO ONE will EVER live a life that is "problem free"...you may take a break from time to time; but trouble will never be far from your back door...so you learn to attain and maintain peace in SPITE of what you face. :)

This may be my last post for this year; it depends on how things go....we as a family will spend Christmas together, my husband and I will be leaving town for a few days to unwind; and I won't be on here for that time.

On the other hand, all of you, get OFF the board, and spend time with your families; be thankful you have them; FORGET MLC for at least Christmas Day; the Crisis can wait a day or two or three. :)

I won't be spying on any of you; I make the suggestions; but I can't enforce them. LOL!  :)

Be happy, love each other, live in light and love, and the Hand of God be upon you all. :)

Much love,
HB


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Our marriage survived His MLC, with the help of the Lord.
I have learned that true strength is built through the trials we endure.
There is hope as long as you love your MLC spouse, and, are willing to learn the  life's lessons that are set before you as a result of this crisis.

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Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
#67: December 24, 2011, 07:01:16 AM
HB..I am so glad that you are ok! Who ever knows  what challenges lie ahead.

I want to wish everyone here blessings and peace for Christmas. If there is one gift I could give each one of you, it would be that you each trust GOd with your life and with your marriage.

I have been given the grace of faith, without which I could not face each day. HB is right, God comforts me and holds my hand and I know that he is with my Beloved too.

I also wish you all the ability to forgive, your spouse and any others who have hurt you.

I thank you all, my dear friends for your love and kindness and support...may the peace of Christ be with you, now and forever. Xoxo


EDIT - I agree with what XYZCF said - glad you are OK.
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« Last Edit: December 24, 2011, 07:03:38 AM by OldPilot »
"Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see" Hebrews 11:1

"You enrich my life and are a source of joy and consolation to me. But if I lose you, I will not, I must not spend the rest of my life in unhappiness."

" The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it". Flannery O'Connor

https://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/chapter-contents.html

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Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
#68: December 24, 2011, 08:23:59 AM
Love and Best Wishes to You and Yours during this festive time, HB.
Thankyou for all the love and support you have sent my way over the past 12 months.

BIG HUGS
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Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
#69: December 24, 2011, 11:21:45 AM
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EDIT - I agree with what XYZCF said - glad you are OK.
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OP, you SNEAKY little man!  LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!  For what it's worth, I love YOU, too!!  :)...but NOT with the kind of love that gets people in trouble. :)

I burst out laughing when I saw this edit; and at first it startled me; thought for just a second XYZCF had made a mistake or something,  then I saw OP's "edit", LOL!!

I'm glad to be feeling OK; and getting ready to pull out to go home for REAL this time; my husband called and checked on me, said if I needed him to come get me; he would come, just call. :)

I do NOT know what I was being kept out of yesterday; but I was going to pull out late last night after posting to the board; but received instruction to go to bed...and I did that...

Now, I've got the "all clear" to head home; not to mention my stomach is just fine, today...and I still wonder what that was about; and what I was being kept out of. :)

He does work in mysterious ways, His Wonders to behold, and I must be a true enigma; as I follow such a crooked path from day to day; never really knowing what I'm going to find myself getting into; but the uncertainty I really can handle; after all, I SURVIVED my spouse's MLC!  :)

After that, all else, really does pale in comparison.

You are right; who really ever knows what challenges lie ahead for our lives once we finish one thing; it is a given that we'll face something else; so our trials never really end; we just learn to recognize, and understand MORE as we continue this journey called LIFE. :)


Love to all, and BIG hugs to everyone,
HB


EDIT - Sneaky yes, little not so much, and I know that you know that :) :) :)
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Our marriage survived His MLC, with the help of the Lord.
I have learned that true strength is built through the trials we endure.
There is hope as long as you love your MLC spouse, and, are willing to learn the  life's lessons that are set before you as a result of this crisis.

 

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