[Thundarr]

Heh.  Just as a side note, this convo is reminding me that one of the reasons XW gave for leaving me right after BD was that I had disagreed on buying end tables a few years before.  Maybe there was something to that……(jk).

[MeNow]

Good men become draft animals to their families and often loose themselves. Men primarily want their wives and family to be happy and often leave all the decorating up to them. Eventually most of us have everything we previously owned turfed out, along with our old friends and anything else from our single life. It happens to most of us slowly and without notice, when if finally sinks in most of what used to be us has faded away, we stake a claim to whatever space is left.

That was not my experience at all. Before BD, the decorator we worked together with was amazed at how well we were able to choose colors, fabrics, accessories and she was shocked when she heard we had split up. We shopped together for the house, for cars, even for tools...he liked me to come with him and I enjoyed his company as well.

I never stood in between him and his old friends and actually I was the one whose life was totally uprooted 7 times so he could climb the career ladder, but you know, even that we decided upon as a couple.

Some marriages actually do work you know where both partners share equally in the division of things at home and support one another through each other's dreams and passions. That is why MLC is crazy making, because when you have had it all and suddenly it over without any discussion or warning, then you know that something very strange has happened.

I didn't mind it too much. I was ok with my family life and not focused on my own stuff. Now that I'm single, I get to make all the choices. Women are much more open when it comes to these kinds of things and tend to speak up and get involved in the process. Guys on the other hand, don't and tend to keep silent but harbor resentment about their lack of control and involvement.

[Braveheart]

I never resented any lack of control, I simply followed the "Happy Wife, Happy Life" mantra everyone said was the way to go, but in retrospect I can see how most of what was me faded away. I think the reason many of us BH's are such Basketcases after BD is because we have sunk so much of our identity into the family and our spouses there is very little left in the tank.

[Darth Obo]

Good men become draft animals to their families and often loose themselves. Men primarily want their wives and family to be happy and often leave all the decorating up to them. Eventually most of us have everything we previously owned turfed out, along with our old friends and anything else from our single life. It happens to most of us slowly and without notice, when if finally sinks in most of what used to be us has faded away, we stake a claim to whatever space is left.

Regardless of what the ladies think or how good it was, this statement is the truth of pretty much every married friend I have......this was the story in my previous marriage!

The purpose of a man cave in the home isn't just for him to have his space.......it's him getting the left over space she didn't want for her and the kids!

Good post man!

DO

[Darth Obo]

Something for the fellas.....especially for the tech savvy. Seems there are some "mancentric programs and hardware" out there that are not working properly as we wish. Seems to be no good fix so proceed with caution gents! 

"I'm currently running the latest version of GirlFriend and I've been having some problems lately. I've been running the same version of DrinkingBuddies 1.0 forever as my primary application, and all the GirlFriend releases I've tried have always conflicted with it. I hear that DrinkingBuddies won't crash if GirlFriend runs an emulation program and the sound is turned off. Unfortunately, the DrinkingBuddies emulation for GirlFriend never seems to work, and I'm embarrassed to say I can't find the switch to turn the sound off. I just run them separately, and it works okay.

I probably should have stayed with GirlFriend 1.0, but I thought I might see better performance from GirlFriend 2.0. But after months of conflicts and other problems, I consulted a friend who has had experience with GirlFriend 2.0. He said I probably didn't have enough cache to run GirlFriend 2.0, and eventually it would require a Token Ring to run properly. He was right - as soon as I purged my cache, it uninstalled itself.

Shortly after that, I installed GirlFriend 3.0 beta. All the bugs were supposed to be gone, but the first time I booted up it gave me a virus anyway. I had to clean out my whole system and shut down for awhile.

I very cautiously upgraded to GirlFriend 4.0. This time I used a SCSI probe first and also installed a virus protection program. It worked okay for a while until I discovered that GirlFriend 1.0 was still in my system. I tried running GirlFriend 1.0 with GirlFriend 4.0 still installed, but GirlFriend 4.0 has a feature I didn't know about that automatically senses the presence of any other version of GirlFriend and uninstalls itself then shuts the system down.

The version I have now works pretty well, but there are still some problems. Like all versions of GirlFriend, it is written in some obscure language I can't understand, much less reprogram. Also, to get the best connections with your hardware, you usually have to use gold-plated contacts. And I've never liked how GirlFriend is totally "object-oriented."

A year ago, a friend of mine upgraded his version of GirlFriend to GirlFriendPlus 1.0, which is a Terminate and Stay Resident version of GirlFriend. He discovered that GirlFriendPlus 1.0 expires within a year if you don't upgrade to Fiancee 1.0. So he did, but soon after that, he had to upgrade to Wife 1.0, which he describes as a huge resource hog. It has taken up all his space, so he can't load anything else. 1.0 was because it came bundled with FreeSexPlus. Well, it turns out the resource allocation module of Wife 1.0 sometimes prohibits access to FreeSexPlus, particularly the new Plug-Ins he wanted to try. On top of that, Wife 1.0 must be running before he can do anything. Although he did not ask for it, Wife 1.0 came with MotherInLaw which has an automatic pop-up feature he can't turn off.

I told him to try installing Mistress 1.0, but he said he heard if you try to run it without first uninstalling Wife 1.0, Wife 1.0 will delete MSMoney files before doing the uninstall itself. Then Mistress 1.0 won't install anyway because of insufficient resources."


DO

[elray]

Just ran across a funny term, I thought you gents would enjoy....

Men's magazines have long glorified the female hour glass figure, and even tried to quantify it -- playboy famously defined idealized figure of a woman as 36/26/36 measurement.  Not my taste, but to each their own...

Any ways..in my traveling of the interwebs, I came across women discussing the idealized man, described as 666.

Have you heard of 666?  I'm sadly not a 666 -- are you:
6 foot tall
6 pack abs
6 figure income

As I point out above -- men have been scoring women by number for a long time --so I don't find this turnabout in the least bit troubling.  Rather, I find it very amusing.  But, I wonder if these term has been around a long time, or are women finally closing the gap on men in quantifying desirability? 

[MyBrainIsBroken]

I'd be ok with this since I come real close on all three.

[Seekingpatience]

In this part of the world, the gold digger's version of the alphabet consists of the 5 Cs

Car
Cash
Condo
Credit card
Country club

 

[elray]

MBIB -- you stud!

SP -- diggers gonna dig !  never saw that one before though -- 5 Cs and cash ain't one!

[Mad Hatter]

Gentlemen, It's been a while. A little something for the guys to read; an interesting point of view. I encourage you to read some of the links contained in the article.

*** WARNING: THIS WILL MOST LIKELY PISS THE WOMEN OFF!!! READ AT YOUR OWN DISCRETION!!!***

no-maam.blogspot.fr/2012/06/woman-most-responsible-teenager-in.html


Have a great Memorial Day weekend!

Mad Hatter